This is so typical...the answer is a sad YES. But it's so
toopid....please allow to share...
1. Why do you get married in the first place? For sex? Status? New
experience? Remember the oaths that you took??? More importantly,
do you recall why you LOVE your wife and decided to marry her, to
take care of her, etc...??
Life is full of challenges, learn how to solve it and not escape
from it. You have been sucked into the black hole of boring
Singapore because you (and your wife) are boring.
And because of this, I'm guessing that your married life is boring
and uneventful and you just wish to chill out elsewhere, check out
new excitements....but the fact is, whatever you do, it'll be
boring after awhile because you are boring....booze with the old
frenz, drinking the same brand of booze...yada yada....
Look, the fact is that your 'cool' unmarried friend naturally has a
differently lifestyle as you because he is who he is and you are
not him. Grass is greener there but if you stop whining about your
married life, he'll start to envy you instead!!!!!
2. You have debts because of your choice and lifestyle. To me, that
has nothing to do with marriage or freedom. Draw up a joint saving
account that covers all living expenditures/saving/medical and any
excess is your own to spend or save.
Everyone has financial issues in one way or another and I guess
it's all about our capitalistic world so nothing to do with
marriage or freedom.
Want more financial freedom? Work harder and earn more! Or simply
be cash rich and downgrade.
Bro FG, you will come whole circle even if you get divorced now, a
few years later met some interesting lady, decided to try to settle
down again because you are wiser. but consider all the lost
opportunities?
I'm married but i still maintain my social circles with mixed
gender and I mean 1-1 and vice versa for her. If your marriage
means you cannot go out with gals, then you need to speak to your
wife and that's a separate trust issues here.
If you are not getting a financial balance here, speak to her and
sort out your crap.
If you are not getting enough sex, find out why? Pain, mess, tired,
style pattern, etc...learn to match each other....
Human is all about balance. Take 10 steps back and look at your
life. Which are the parts that are skewed, and balance it. Whether
to divorce or not is not longer an issue here.
( Care to share with us your age, how long you have dated and
married, etc...?)
