Worried for my friend

troubledme99 SG

My friend just got into a relationship with this particular guy. What surprised me is that, she doesn't have 'special' feeling for this guy. He looked like some sort of gangster (another friend told me this). According to one of my close friend, I got to know this guy is a player.

The reason why she got into a relationship with him because she wants 'protection' or so called 'security' from the guy. Heard from one of my friend that, she kinda like the feeling of being touched by the guy. So with evidence, I think she's the Kinesthetic person, who love the feeling of touch.

And she also admits that the guy don't like her; He doesn't have feeling for her. I feel that my friend is in the wrong in the first place by asking him to be his boyfriend.

And this guy is very touchy, and she worry that she might lose her virginity to this guy. My friend is very blur, and she's really blur. She couldn't tell what's right or wrong. I'm afraid that this guy might want to have sex with her, and she might not have an idea what to do. To give or not to give. And if my friend were to reject, I'm worried that he might use force(you should know what this means).

Call me old-fashion, but I personally believe that first-sex should be given to someone who is special.

So can someone comment on this, so that I have an idea what to suggest to her.

Thanks. Really appreciate you help.

lageihsif SG

just break off lor…ignore that guy etc etc

jojobeach SG

At least the guy is fulfilling one of a few of her needs. That's what a relationship is about.. fulfilling needs.

Your friend may be blur, but she is not stupid. Give her some credit ok ?

If she lose her virginity to this guy and she don't feel like it's a lost. Why are you so worried ? Just remember to remind her, don't go unprotected sex.

You are her friend, not her mother.

If she cannot tell right or wrong, she'll have to learn it the hard way.
You cannot be there for her all the time.
Your duty as a friend is to give some logical advise, and it's up to her to discern it herself.
You cannot live her life for her.

Virginity is only valuable to the person who values it.

Why is it so important to you who she lose her virginity to? Unless you value HER virginity so much ?

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Tell your friend to be careful. Smile

de_middle SG

ur frined likes to be touched & the guy is touchy.......where's the problem Question

FireIce SG

to her, he is special

troubledme99 SG

No. They both don't have feeling for each other. I am afraid that she might give in after he keep on demanding.

troubledme99 SG

The problem is my friend is very confused. Yes to a certain extent, I admit that my friend do like the feeling of being touch, but she's unsure of whether to give her virginity to this guy or not.

troubledme99 SG

She's my friend, and that's why I don't want to see her being cheated.

She is one of very important friend in my life.

troubledme99 SG

My friends and I tried to wake her up, but she seems in her dreamland; She just wouldn't want to break off with that guy~

MidnightK SG

huh?
you have feelings for her?

it's her life what..
you can't decide what's her future gonna be..
so what if you worry here and there..
there's nothing you can do..
they can just go out anytime, do whatever they like..

unless you stick around the whole day?
that's impossible

Yunhaier SG

That's still merely your opinion, isn't it?

And also, that is her decision to be with him, isn't it? Nobody put a knife to her neck and force her to be with this man.

Then come the ultimate question: other than just friend, who are you to her? Who are you to decide what's best for her?

She will walk the way she choose, not the way you think it's good for her. Idea

Cheers

PPG SG

it's not about who she loses her virginity to, it's about her losing her self-respect and her love for herself. i do agree that virginity is only valuable to the person who values it, so as a friend we should help her to learn how to value it and not just stand there and watch her crumble.

i understand that all you want to do is to help her... personally i would do everything i can to wake her up man. the guy doesn't even like her, why should i let this idiot hurt her unnecessarily? it's just a whole problem that doesn't need to happen. but if you've done your part, if you've tried your best, if she still chooses not to heed your advice, i feel sad but she's chosen to learn the hard way. so now the rest is up to her. she's lucky to have friends like you who care about her.

gunner77 SG

ur friend love the feeling of being touch and the guy wants to touch her
so problem solve, wats the matter now ?

CannyOng SG

Tell her not to regret her action….

Uncertain SG

Get another reliable handsome chap to seduce her lol... handsome = look like Wu YanZu, Wang Lee Hong... Mr. Green

Virus92 SG

This same thing happened to my fren too. No matter wat we say she still won't listen. In the end...well....its really sad. Anyway if ur fren still doesn't listen after persuading her so much, then the only thing u can do now is prepare to comfort her when she finally gets hurt by the guy.

T.Ryousuke SG

End of the day u can tell me guy cheated the gal rite?

U can only warn her, it's her own decision. Get someone who she listen to.

ghimpheng SG

ask her to read this thread if your advise for her fail

Sakuraflower SG

the only way is to give her advice and tell her right or wrong..

then the decision is up to her..

fun thing, both of them dun have feelings for each other... Are you kidding..?

no point worrying for her, it is the relationship with the guy and your friend...

why are you so busybody , as a friend to her , you can only tell her right and wrong and warn her to be careful...

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