It does not matter on what your hobbies or interests are,
seriously.
Making interesting conversations is an art.
I used to think that different age will have problems in
communications at first too, in the past. And running out of topics
is normal.
But seriously, I tell you, that is rubbish.
But well, age does matters from other point of view if you are
talking about relationship that's gonna last. Last as in getting
married and not those "waa! Me and my stead 8yrs relationship! last
for very long leh!~"
Whatever 'type' of girl she is, does not matter.
Unless you are saying that she thinks that you are a turn-off or
she is rude bitch.
But if that is the case, you would not be together with her in the
first place.
It is like seriously, are you even interested about her life at
all?
Do you even ask, "Oh, how's your day?" OR maybe you did, but are
you asking for the sake of asking?
"Oh, I came from school. Then come meet you already lor."
"Oh, okay."
So that is all? oh, okay. finish. end. no more. Like that?
No right?
You are interested to know more about her right?
Then ask! Eventually you will come to something that she is
interested in talking about!
For example, if that example above is what she replied, I will
already have a lot in mind of what to say already.
Eg.1
So, how you come here from school ar? Bus? Train? Cab?
So what bus number? Oh, from your school to here how many stops
ar?
A lot of people in the bus? Oh, I see..
So... you eat already or not? Yes, No, 1/2 full?
Yes, but I'm very very hungry. Follow me go eat first. I want to
eat burger king. Gonna order a double swiss meal, up size, change
fries to onion rings, add a pie.
She: "Waa! Eat so much?"
Ya lor. I very hungry leh. Whole day haven't eat. Actually, just
the meal can already. But recently got craving for the pie... so...
haha... Sure you don't want to eat?
I share some with you la!
Eg.2
So, what's the lessons for the day?
A.Maths, so what topics are you covering today? Oh, is it
hard?
So, what is it about actually?
She: "I tell you, you also don't know..." (standard topic
killer)
If you tell me, I might know, or might not know.
If you don't, I'll never know.
*important part: You want you're boyfriend to be a sua ku meh? No
right?
Hmm... I see... Though I don't know what it is, but it sounds
really tough.
How are coping with it anyway?
She: "Okay lor..." (standard topic killer)
Okay as in? Can do? Cannot do? Question come out for from topic
sure can answer and get a 6/10 for that question?
It is like seriously, I can even give you example 3, 4, 5, 6,
7.
But that will be pointless.
It have to come from you yourself, from your character.
You just have to go through the conversations until you hit her
interest.
You will know that it is when she speak a few more words on that
topic.
When that happens, just elaborate more from that topic.
Just like playing guitar, when you find out what that scale is, for
example Am.
You can play it with Am pentatonic scale or Am diatonic scale, add
some Am blues scales, chromatic notes, play in shapes, triads,
arpp, just improvise!
Same thing over here.
But please be natural. Do not stamma. Do not be lame.
Watch your body language also. Like where you hands should be when
you speak. Open your palms and not behind your back or in your
pockets.
Your eyes, do not wander around when you are talking to her.
Look at her, but not to the extend of where you stare at her like
you are gonna eat her.
Well unless, you really are going to *eat her... hmm... yeah...
then at that time please do stare.
Crack jokes that are really funny. Or else, please don't. Not at
all.
I am sure would rather be known as someone boring then a farking
lamer.
You do not need jokes to be funny.
You said you read widely right?
Then, go look for books.
Read not only on how to communicate, but read to understand girls
too.
Women are creatures that needs attention, care, corncern, love...
bla bla~...
Yes, those are common sense! But that is not all!
If that is all you know, you will most probably get ditch.
They need attention yes... BUT the "right" kind of attention!
They need care yes... BUT from the person they want care from
only!
They need concern yes... BUT from at the right time only!
And yes, they feel plesure too.
Males are human, Females are human.
You have sex organs, they have sex organs.
You will feel horny, they will feel horny too.
Organs that allows them to feel sexually arouse when
stimulated.
They are given the organs for a purpose, it is not there for
show.
But please use a condom if you do intend to try anything
funny.
I am telling you this not to encourage you to have sex with
her.
There are times where you need to know.
If that time doesn't come, then this section would probably not
mean anything to you.
Remember this, practice makes perfect.
Don't give up just because you failed.
Know the reasons why you failed.
And don't continue on the "things" that cause you to fail after
you've failed.
