how to rebuild trust?

subaru67 SG

hi all... how to u rebuild trust that u have lost in him/her?

(not saying he/she has done something behind yr back that u have proof)

selfobliged SG

u can start with yourself. Be honest and open. But bear in mind that it takes time.

sLeEpWaLkErInG SG

effort, communication and time, these are the 3 main criteria.

subaru67 SG

start with myselft first right and not with the other party right?

(as now the other party is buyers towards you)

subaru67 SG

if u do all these... but yr other partner like sometimes ignore u etc?

sLeEpWaLkErInG SG

very hard to elaborate all the pts as u only devulge so little information.

subaru67 SG

what can i type more?

(meaning during these times... she ignores me.. when we are out with her sis n bf.. i was like a stranger to her)

sLeEpWaLkErInG SG

something like how the trust was broken and such. regaining trust in a relationship shld be working on mending where it is broken and not trying to go around it and do other measures.

de_middle SG

biased Question

if u think its worthwhile putting in effort then do it.....don't bother about the other person. U cannot control others but u can control urself Exclamation

subaru67 SG

oic... well she said something that made my trust level in her fall downwards... since that word from her... i have been doubting her... not trusting her...

she has commented that since after that incident that she has not felt any trust on my side to her... i told her that she cant blame me as since what she told me left a great impact on me.

now in return... she said i am not trusting her n is suspicious of anything she do...

haiz

subaru67 SG

hmm see my reply

de_middle SG

then do u still think its worthwhile trusting her Question if u dun, then don't bother carrying on Neutral

subaru67 SG

i wanto trust her again... but that fear of me kept me for doing that as i have poor past bgr

as too be fair... since what she said... i have not seen it happening... but the moment she open her mouth n talk abt it it has haunt me....

aHGer^83 SG

trust is like a vase.
once broken, no matter how u mend, there's still bound to be holes n cracks...

subaru67 SG

thats why...

its like somethings said although u dun mean it... but said liao cannot be taken back... how?

i really wanto forget what she said... but my mind not strong enuf

aHGer^83 SG

im struggling it myself too...

subaru67 SG

can elborate?

subaru67 SG

so how to make yrslef forget all these… and maybe look forward to happy oncomings

subaru67 SG

no 1? Crying or Very sad