What will you do if you feel unwelcome?

tutu2 SG

Scenario 1: Let's say in work u don't have frens ..u feel the office is so 'cold' but you stay on because of HIGH pay (20% more that what you get outside) ..bcos u got house, non working parents, car to support. What will you do? Will you do stay on such miserable work life ?

Scenario 2 : Let's say you are living with your in law not by your wish, you got no choice bcos they have no house (they nvr save for rainy days , only live day by day, happy go lucky) and you feel so 'cold' in the house with them.

For first choice, still can hop lower pay job..but for this case What will you do ? divorce? Don't ask me to move bcos we got not $$ already.

mir4cle SG

hmm..for work, i'd continue working but i'd oso be on the lookout for new job options...Try making friends with my workmates..if that is unsuccessful, i will jus persevere lor. no biggie ma.

for home..play games with them so u'd be familiar with them..

but, i think ultimately, YOU are the one that needs to change since u cant get along w e ppl around u.

Guardx SG

1) got higher pay still want to ask for more. there are so many others outside who is willing to take your job if you do not want it.

2) save money and get out. That is what everyone is doing.

Be realistic lar money is the key thing in life. No money you can only crap.

tutu2 SG

btw, scenario 1 & 2 happen in 2 different pple, not same person lah !

blowfish SG

cApitaland SG

scenario1: for me i wud i stay. im oledi feelin not-so-welcome at my school. and what is a job for basically? to earn money right.

scenario2: are they paying rent? omg. alot of money...

rain-coat SG

Perserve and Suceed

mihiro SG

agree but to a certain extent, yes money is essential in our society but not life, do u need money to create life Mr. Green ? realistically speaking, in this society, no money no talk.

i have seen so many people who are living better than the average people but still crap alot =x.

a quote for TS , "watever you did in the past, makes u who u are today". no point asking for solution, cos many times the solution only can be found in you, only yourself know what is best.

nuub1987 SG

hmmm... if you hard up with money just carry on working and get the good pay... if really cannot tahan den find other jobs

just perserve ... life is short and miserable

dearie^^ SG

scenario 1: BE A MAN! endure for the sake of your family!

scenario 2: send the folks to old folks' home! Twisted Evil

caleb_chiang SG

Ai yo... It doesn't hurt if you live with your in laws. Try to know them better lor... Else what? Send them to old folks home but you still need to pay for it? Rolling Eyes

Darkness_hacker99 SG

For

Scenario 1: Yes, stay on and look forward to payday
Scenario 2: Communicate, interact, speakup more.

de_middle SG

stay & look for another.....

2nd one, no comments Very Happy

eagle SG

1) Save up the money, take a risk and start your own business. Might earn less, but still earn, and you will be your own boss...

2) Interact lor.... Or for some others, they may just slog their day longer, earn more, come back home dead tired and fall asleep immediately.

tutu2 SG

i think all these problem came to one conclusion => MONEY !!

Scenario 1 : Stay for the sake of MONEY !!
Ya, difficult to find job outside now..

Scenario 2 : Work Harder for the sake of MONEY / FREEDOM !!
Cannot sent to folks to home lah, one mth is ard $1400++ for one bed in old folks home !!

dmuse SG

"Personal Liberty above everything else"

<Precious> SG

Keep your work life and your private social life separate and distinct.

When u go to work, switch your mind to the professional mode - just do the work and split from office. Once you step out of the office switch back your mind to the personal/private mode again. Takes a lil' bit of practice to do this but it can be done! Wink

bryanw SG

nothing personal strictly business

ichi87 SG

for scenario 1.. maybe you r getting a high pay right now.. but without the personal relationship within your office.. its very hard for you to promote to a more seniority position.. tt means.. your pay will be stucked at that amt lor..

but if you find other jobs.. maybe your PR is better.. then, the chance of getting promoted is oso higher.. and means pay will oso increase.. but the qn is do you have the patience to wait? or do you have the time to wait?

for scenario 2... since you say you have no choice but to live with your in-laws.. why not try to get along with them.. since.. after all you have no choice.. its better for a family to stay close.. rather than.. every day knock off from the work.. den come back still muz face all the "black" faces.. right?
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