Am i wrong to be angry?

last SG · 2007-11-24T01:30:13+00:00

Why not take a more objective stance? It's just another one of those countless relationships founded on insecurity that is unlikely to withstand the test of...

Tian Long Jiu Bu SG

My gf jus finish her A lvl like few days ago. But immediately she got 2chalet in 1 week. Of cos i was nt happy. Firstly is.. i cannot spend time v her. Secondly.. The person who open the chalet is 1 who she like last time. And they almsot get tgt. They got hold hand. But they nvr get tgt. I only noe this recently.

Then tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach. Then she sayh ok @ first. But say they going wild wild wet @ 10. Then ask me go @ 1+. then i ok.. Then change and change again.. until 6+ i mean who will play inside from 10-6. Then somemore.. i ask her.. i tmr feel like going escape.. then ask her wanna acc me ma. But she say she dun like and her friend dun want also. Then i ask her. Wad if ur friend like it, and want to go? will u go? she say YES!!

I was like.. i was nt even as compare to her friend. Ask her go escape, she say she dun like and dunwant to go. and if her friend wana go, she wil acc them..

then y can't she play v them until like 2+ then come out and meet me?? y must she keep sticking to them?

i mean.. i go there was to acc her de.. but it look as if she was the 1 acc me..

i was feeling damn angry and sad... should i go tmr??

mhcampboy SG

how old are you?

gunner77 SG

very easy...

break up lor

Tian Long Jiu Bu SG

19+ le lo.. haa

skeujin SG

hello wake up lah. u have huge trust issues. you dont trust yr gf thn better not get involved in a r/s.

so what if she wants to party with her classmates after all the pressure of the exams. so what if its in one week. even if it was one month u will not be happy cause the other guy is ther.

you know she will be with her classmates yet u insist on showing up. duhz. n u complain she keeps postponing yr meet up, shes out with a group of frens. majority wins n primarily your not supposed to be anywhr near ther. y shd a group of people accomodate their fun for a single inividual who they probably have not met and such n MCP?

please la. be a man. have some spine. trust yr partner n get some frens of your own.

Tian Long Jiu Bu SG

it was she who ask me to go there for the 3 days of chalet.. and i reject... then she ask me go for bbq.. then i ok de.. nt i insist on showing up.. And i noe her friend well kaes..

but ur last paragraph.. i agree

juzboy SG

Give her a break la..
She just finished her A's want to have fun let her be lo.. Rolling Eyes

skeujin SG

thn tell your story clearly in yr 1st post.

you said "tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach."

the term "i plan to go" and "she ask me to go" are 2 different things.

even if you know her friends. are you within the social circle? you are n outsider. let your gf have some time with her own friends. everyday see your face also sian.

have you ever heard of this saying that goes "absence makes the heart grow fonder"?

Tian Long Jiu Bu SG

so should i go tmr?? Confused

cutie-pie SG

chalets are for sex

dumbdumb! SG

jealousy and insecurity is quite common la. some ppl are more affected, but trust me, its good to give each other some space to breathe. don’t crowd her or she might leave.

purpledragon84 SG

*nods in agreement*
u have to let her have her own private time.. its very impt one.. cannot 24hr niam tgt one.. sure will die very fast.. it may be very difficult at 1st.. that's how u learn to build up trust and that's how ur relationship can progress, if not, keep niam-ing tgt there will be no progress and it will stagnate and then it will become boring and die off..

let her go out and play, have fun, enjoy.. u also can have ur own activities what.. make appointments or dates with her now lo.. book her in the future 1st.. but if she already has plans with friends, dun go join her, unless she makes it known that she wants u to go..

dun suffocate her, and she wun run away.. show her the concern, but do it the right way.. care for her, but dun question her.. she chose u over the other guy, den dun make her think she made a wrong choice..

good luck..

skeujin SG

ok im going to be lor sor.

this is about lhow possessiveness will kill a r/s.

imagine that your cup your hands together and you are holding a pool of water in them.

imagine that the water is the one u love.

your hands protect the one you love. you shield it from the sun, you make sure it doesn't spill.

but what happens when u get possessive? you will want to grip onto the one u love more.

you clench your fists...

the water starts to spill...

the tighter your grip. then more you lose. and if you dont learn to let go. eventually you will lose everything.

understand?

purpledragon84 SG

sooooooooooooooooooooooo comforting for the TS's mind now..

skeujin SG

do you want to be a great bf?

let her go party w her frens. let her be but do drop her n sms in the evening to she hows she doing, ask her to have fun and tell her u love her. (n once will be enuf! dont bug her the whole day with numerous calls)

in the time that you are apart. if you got no one to company u out n you dont know what to do. dont waste your time on tv and computer games. do a handmade gift for her, from your heart. do a montage of pictures from the day you met. of some nice trinket that you know she can see everyday and it will remind her of you and bring a smile to her face.

give the gift to her when next u meet after the chalet.

post here what happens n tell me if i gave bad advice. Wink

skeujin SG

this is AA. go play in BAR whr u belong.

Clandestine SG

I'd be irritated if i was in your situation as well.

The girl doesn't be as "into" spending time with you as much as you are with her. And this to me in a warning flag.

While i do agree with everyone else's view on "not being too possessive" i also think that not taking someone who loves you for granted is equally important.

Think back on your entire relationship and evaluate..

1) Are you a priority in her life...or just an option?

Tian Long Jiu Bu SG

thx.. i think i noe le. thx alot. so i think i better nt go tmr

Baby_Nutz SG

Both of you are not wrong...

You have the right to be angry is your feelings where you feel she did not intend to spend personal time with you...

She is not wrong where she will find that without her friends there will be less fun is her character...

Is both of your characters are both different so both of you must compromise with one another...

Talk to her that you would like to spend some personal time with her if you dun tell her she will not know...

If she say no way mean that she like to have more ppl ard if i am not wrong your gf is those fun loving type but u are the opp you are those who friend is friend family is family gf is gf all cant be associate with each other... You will like your gf to be with your side all day all night personal time with each other want to b more romantic but your gf is those where her friends are as equal important as her bf....

Talk to her she will understand... No point getting angry with one another...

You shld not be angry @ her u shld go tml with her...

You say it is her A level finish and she meeting her freinds after that she will have less time with them and both of you are still with each other and spending time... Let it be... talk to her...

Lorry` SG

Not right or wrong
it is.... you shouldnt be angry

she dont need your company.... she dont need you 24/7.... she needs to go out with her friends too, you know? she needs some life with her friends too

and finally theres time for her and her classmates to play together, so let them be.... that explains she choose her friends over you.. your gettin clingy in here

and also, if you know her friends, them you also join the chalet lor.. problem solve.. you get to see her