Is this betrayal?

last SG · 2007-11-20T12:16:50+00:00

i think if so TS so displease with her bf, just break off lor. very simple ma but frankly speaking, as a guy, i will not say tat in front my gal. and i don...

petti SG

You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.

The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""

Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you?

aHGer^83 SG

if it's true, i wld have left him on the spot...
it's not betrayal... it's flirtatious...

Cool-gal SG

wahh, tat malay gal wants to warn u or wants to find trouble.
anyway, guys who flirt verbally, will flirt physically as well.
beware.
seen too much of such guys.

sLeEpWaLkErInG SG

i think maybe the malay gal is jealous.. you are lucky she didn't say your bf say she is more slim than you.. then that one is Evil or Very Mad

Q.C.Pak SG

well... Rolling Eyes

storywolf SG

Question is how much you can believe that store keeper ?

First - why would a store keeper suddenly ask - "is that your gf outside" ? Come on how many 7-11 store keeper will ask someone that question - unless she is bored and try to be funny and looking for trouble .... !!! She then tell you what your bf say - just prove she is just a bored woman who is trying to be funny and looking for trouble...

Petti a lady beauty is not just on how she look and her figure , it is also her confident of herself and the way she carry herself that attract men. If just one word from a 7-11 store keeper and you already shaken ..... gal ... you sure need to build up some confidence !

<Precious> SG

Strictly speaking: No, there's no betrayal.........
Your boyfriend is therefore acquited of the charge.

But he's a flirt all right.......... Mr. Green

petti SG

I think you are mistaken. I have absolute confidence in myself. Besides, whether how pretty or sexy am i is not the issue. Neither is how sexy she is. And neither is her intention in telling me.

The issue to me is, why is he saying that to another woman? And as if it is not bad enough, he said it within one to two metre away from me? What does this signify?

P/s: i asked him if he said that, he replied he did.

petti SG

Honestly, i am disappointed. He is known to be a very faithful guy among many.

Cool-gal SG

petti, u shd confront ur bf, see wad he says..
i think tat cashier was just trying to be frenly. if she wasnt, she will not comment u as a sexy lady.
but of cos, she might be making it up.
so its a 50-50 situation.
confront ur bf la..

extrinsic SG

Originally posted by petti:

The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""

Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you?

ur bf is just being honest.
unless tat day u r more sexy that that ah pui.

petti SG

Yes, i think she is trying to be frenly. And her telling me is some woman thingy, whereby women always 'help' women.

I confronted him. His reply was "yes, i said that. but do you honestly think that plump girl is sexier than you?"

well, i shut my ears beyond that point and left. Whether she is sexier or not is not the point. The point is, he said that. And to make matters worse, he said that right in front of me (thinking that i will never hear it as i am at the other side of the glass door)! It is no excuse that the girl is sexier or not sexier than me.

Cool-gal SG

ermmm.....
how long have u two been together?

qlqq9 SG

hello, may be you may wanna monitor him and see how he really is. What he said to the malay is not acceptable.

petti SG

we are together for half a year. he is an old friend of my best friends. he does not have unfaithful record.

Cool-gal SG

i think u can find a better guy than this jerk.
seriously, if he can flirt verbally, he will flirt physically.
yes, this is betrayal to me though small but mean something.
if he was to say it infront of me to a fren rather than a stranger, maybe i wont feel anything.
but.....
think twice abt this r/s ba..

petti SG

Thank you for your affirmation. How to monitor? i am thinking, if i am around he is already saying that to other girls, what about the times when i am not around?

Cool-gal SG

maybe he did, just tat he is lucky enough not to get spot on.
just imagine, if u werent ard, he might be saying far more than those.
im not trying to sour ur r/s, this is just my point of view.
but oso, if u love him a lot, then might consider giving him a chance.
let him noe, u do not like this kind of things to happen ever again?

petti SG

Yes, i agree totally. Though many may think i am making a mountain out of a molehill, but i really think it means something. It signifies something. What about times when i am not around when he is actually already saying that right in front of me (thinking that i will not hear it)?

Cool-gal SG

or maybe u wan to talk to him abt it?
and is this the first time something like this happen??
did he apologise??