Future

Scape_Goat_Token SG

Bear with me if this is going to be quite a long post. I have somethings which have been bugging me for sometime.

I have a problem of doubting myself, wavering confidence. This pertains to my studies, this year, I managed to barely promote from Jc1 to Jc2 but that was because of many unforseen circumstances that hindered my progress and almost got me retained. The problem here is, I wonder why everyone around me (peers, parents, tuition teachers) are all telling me that I have tremendous potential. They all say I am the academic type, the intelligent type. Someone that can completely dominate academically if I put in the effort. But the problem is, I always "underperform", with my minimal effort, I only manage to scrape through all my exams. I like to study, but I never want to try hard enough. Im scared that if I try my hardest and I don't perfrom according to this arcane exceptionations of others, I will be letting myself down. I would rather take the easy route, slack and always think I can do better if I work harder. Am I living in self-denial if Im scared to find out my potential?

I really dislike people who are so desperate and hungry for good results. I always try to beat the muggers by not studying (but usually to no avail, but even the most occasional moments were satisfying enough). I have my own way of doing things, my own way of thinking, my own way of studying. I skip lectures, sleep in lectures, and sometimes, I think Im better off sitting for Alevels as a private candidate.

Why is everyone so competitive. I can't find the competitive nature in myself. It may sound impossible but I want to do well without studying, or at least studying the minimal.

Alevels is just next year, I sometimes ponder, if I should give it my best, since this is the last ever exam of basic education...

I don't even know what course I want to take in Uni. I don't even know what I want to do. I wanted to go Poly but Jc is more challenging and thus, I choose JC over Poly (though I wanted to dye hair). Ive seen my seniors mug insanely for alevel, it's surely not something easy. And the next year is definitely something I don't want to take lightly. But I can't find the determination. My life all along have been too good, I always pass with flying colours without studying much. I managed to get into a JC without studying much. I feel so blessed that I am taking everything too lightly.

Now, I need tips to motivate myself. For this time round, I want to find out my potential, I want to know whether what others say is true. I really want to find out. I have been living for all these years and throughout all these years of education, why is it everyone is telling me Im talented, but I don't feel so. There are times when I feel intelligent, but sometimes, I feel so stupid. I don't get it.

And how do people determine whether one is intelligent or not. My teacher said after teaching me he realised I have lots of potential. My parents said they knew from the way I learn things since young. I really don't know. I don't think it's false encouragement (or just some deceptive stuff to motivate me), but everyone that passed a comment said that. I never heard anyone say otherwise....

gunner77 SG

hmm..
just do things ur way coz in the end, its ur future, ur A level paper..
all teacher will say tat students have potential even my teacher say tat.
but i just do things my way and i achieve result my way.

relax_crown SG

Then I must really say that you are smart you can pass exam without studying that much.It's your strength cherish it not many people have it.you are smart but there is people who smarter and more hardworking then you and they take over you.One mountain,higher then one mountain you think you are good someone are better than you.You don't even need to compare with others why?Because everyone is make differently everyone got their pace and style.It's never too late to plan for your future. Cheers! and good luck Wink

hiphop2009 SG

you shld cherish ur talent u noe! i studied and mugged all my life but my results are just very average nia.

if u like, u can come to homework forum to post questions or share your expertise with fellow forumnites Wink

Sakuraflower SG

u should jia you!

T E M P O SG

u sound a bit like me(not trying to boast), i used to not understand the nature of competition in humans and i dont really study in primary school and can get pretty well results. Now in secondary school i cant really do the same, as if i do so my results would be in passing-only-grades. cherish your talent; and also because of your talent, you do not have the competitive nature (which is good.)

Just note that sometimes try to study if u want to achieve, that way, with your talent as a plus-on you'll do very well. Of course not having the competitive nature is sometime good for you; at least you're most probably happy with yourself right?(i feel that way...)

RETARDED_MORON SG

This is what a small ego does to you.

Nikar2 SG

why should u compete?
don't join the rat race, i tell you. study for yourself and let the 99.9% of them destroy and back-stab each other.

aremeis SG

TS,
You will need to reckon the fact that you are in another stage of your academic life and it may hold a different mechanic / technique to get you moving on that right track again. Perhaps you just need to sleep lesser and be more attentive during your lectures for a start to establish that fondation which you had been found lacking!!!

Let's just leave the future to the future and the right time ok? No use counting the chickens before they are hatch. And certainly not, when you are ill qualified to even lay an egg. Smile

So take things one step at a time and do what is need of you for now. Put more effort and stop having a negative about competition because it cannot be avoided. Remember without competition there will never be challenges and excellence. Smile

iceFatboy SG

I just feel that you are afraid of failing.

Ignore what others are doing, focus on yourself.
why not just try to a bit harder and see whether effort = results?

You may not know what you want to do in Uni, but why not get the necessary grades and then do the choosing later, rather than get the minimal and you are forced to choose some courses in Uni that you hate?

End of day, you just have to account to yourself.

mir4cle SG

TS! i know how u feel. *pats* well, JC is supposed to be tough. you just have to keep working till next year then you can see e fruits of your labour. it's not easy, but it can be done. if you can pass w flying colors without studying much, JC should be relatively easy to u. all you have to do is... PAY ATTENTION DURING LECTURE and DO YOUR DAMN TUTORIALS!!!

Stoat SG

Intelligence is a multiplier...it multiplies whatever efforts you put in. Start putting in some content and you'll be pleasantly surprised at the results. Mug if you must, to get the knowledge. Your greatest enemy is ego here. Laughing

metalcar SG

never perform accordinly with other people's expectations is letting urself down..? lol you are you.. y wan 2 let others decide ur own potential.. ? study for ur own..not for others.. n oso y wna to let other ppl opinions affect u..? dun listen to other ppl's expectations.. jus do wad u like to do.. since u like to study den study lo..

well i duno if its true...u wan to noe whether u really got the potential to do well in ur studies bcus if u noe u really have.. den u will work hard and get the best results.. if u found out tat u dun have this potential ur teachers have been sayin.. den u will not study.. cus for u..theres no point for u to study so hard if u hav no potential.. anyway so wad if u got potential n so wad if u dun have...
even if u have no potential.. u can can do well too.. and even if u have great potential n work very hard in ur studies.. ppl can beat u in your studies too..

n oso i tink most of the ppl in ur sch is not being competitive.. they jus dun1 to let demselves down by not studyin n fail the exams.. anyway learn to accept failures oso =.=

yiha093 SG

so ur point is?
to study or not study?

Isis SG

I pray that someone will come and inspire you...

u just need some inspiration.

TTRules SG

you are a loser.

its not about being competitive. its about doing your best. your dont deserve their time and effort. if your best is good enough to be better than others, then so be it. education is about yourself and no one else.

you are accountable for your own actions so stop finding excuses and if this is the life you want, just live like a loser.