Coping Withe loneliness

Shanghai_Grand SG

How does one cope with loneliness

My life is fraught with this "sensation" that no one can explain..

Even me, trying to turn towards my favourite thing to do, which is writing essays to keep my mind off this "sensation" has started to worn off..

When will my turn come? In a society with money as its ruler , i'll bet ill remain single for the rest of my life, which is, if i manage to save up to go overseas for a wife

popikachu SG

Basically...
One of the common way is to socialise with others... There are lots of way to do it...
I am sure you can find you True friends one day if you search hard.

Or another way which is also the hardest way is to Endure...
Telling yourself that you won't let the thing call "loneliness" to interfere with whatever you are doing. In other words, to gain control of your loneliness and focus on what you doing...

Just to tell you that, there are really people who still care about you.

Cheers Wink

aremeis SG

You are just living your life in a Well...there are so much activities out there. You may want to take a course at your nearby community club and/or pick up a long lost hobby which you did not have the time or oppotunity for. There are also various organized group outings and activities for you to participate. BTW where are your friends>? Idea

de_middle SG

Many activities to indulge urself in. doesn't mean having a life partner, u can rid off loneliness......rather be lonely than having someone u can get along with Neutral

Isis SG

I think your hormones are raging for a mate!.. Laughing

Isis SG

On a serious note, loneliness is really a state of mind when you are only thinking about yourself.. your own needs.

Step out of yourself - > a closed-minded wall, an emotional barrier, your room, your home and share yourself with others.

boltstorm SG

its not always about money.

u should go socialise more and meet more pple. and maybe u need to adjust ur expectations for finding a partner.

angel7030 SG

Are u very ugly or wat? Why feel so inferior? Come on, go out and have fun, meet the people, we are all ugly, and out of the ugliness, there lies the beauty ya.

darknessfall SG

loneliness kill....seek professional help!
actually, so many people here complains about being loneliness...but do you know what is lonely? You go visit those homes, and see those old folk, sitting in one corner, starring into the space, that is lonely...

boy, you are young..plenty of opportunities to meet new people, and you have family members to talk to.. Yes, you need friends...then, go out and talk to people, but dont try too hard, because it will get on pp's nerves!

I known people, who try very hard to get into the clique, and ended up being astrocised because they tried too hard..

Let things be simple, and you will find friends and activities...

aremeis SG

Has it ever occur to you that there are some that are just conservative and introvert. There are times I am sure you will run out of ideas in some areas....so do have a heart??!!

Nata|ie SG

Try doing something different. Go out and socialise more.

The results will be different.

If u dun change ur mindset or pyscho urself, u will remain in this low mood for quite sometime.

Make urself happy. U deserve to be happy.

jojobeach SG

If you are fated to be single. What's the big deal ?

Not everyone in this world will find their other partner.
Many remained single and remained happy.

Their happiness don't come from receiving from some one else's giving. Their happiness comes from giving to some one else who needs it.

If all you think about is how or who should make you happy, then you will forever be miserable.

A self centered/selfish person does not deserve a good partner NOR happiness. I think you falls into this category, because all you do is whine and complain. Sorry to say this, the more you moan and groan, the less likely ANYONE will want to be with you.

Even if you saved up enough to BUY yourself a overseas wife, I doubt she will be happy with you in the long run. Yes, I feel pity for her already.

Start thinking out of the box.

angel7030 SG

Huh!, me conservatives??? Ya, i love to eat conserved titbits at times, but certainly not conservatives nor introvert. And yes, i do hv a heart, if not i won't be typing here, and let get it clear dude, whether it is introvert or extrovert, it is better than be a pervert.

Spnw07 SG

true about loneliness and seeking professional help. and true in that, i too have tried very hard to get into various cliques, and have not succeeded even once..

But the difficult thing is in knowing what/when is trying too hard or simply giving up too easily, or being indifferent and arrogant without knowing/acknowledging it in oneself.

the_fallen SG

well, according to your age of '20'

life shouldn't be boring unless you're a total introvert like the previous me.

what is loneliness to you?

no buddy to talk to?

Nikar2 SG

loneliness is when you feel isolated from the world and cannot connect it to it generally (like if your goals in life are totally different from the 99.9% of your own countrymen)

aremeis SG

Hi Dida,

Look I am just stating that TS might be a conservative and an introvert... I understand that you are anxious to serve your preservatives here....but sorry I just prefer the fresh ones if you know what i mean. Care to read a little further before you start saying something which you have totally misunderstood??

Your Dude here Wink

angel7030 SG

Oh, Oops Hi dude, Embarassed

Guess, it is kind of misunderstand I tend to get when you posted after me, ok, while still munching my preservatives, for slimming purpose, i apologise to you.

Oh yeah, guess TS is quite conservatives whereby he self indulged himself in loneliness. Poor guy, born to be lonely. WAKE UP!!!

jondizzle foshizzle SG

I think your problem is that your favourite thing to do is to write essays.