is it a crush?

855 SG · 2007-11-02T23:06:27+00:00

because you havent found a new target.

855 SG

i really wonder, if it is really a crush, how come i am still having feelings towards her after 6 months? Sad

teddybear10 SG

huh? wat happened?

855 SG

i have been liking for this girl since more than 6 months ago and somehow that girl seems to be unhappy with me for something that i dun know (i didn't disturb her btw)

i was thinking, if that is a crush, i should hv easily forget her long ago but after so long a period i still have feelings towards her Sad

teddybear10 SG

u r colleagues or classmates or ??? if the gal seems unhappy with you...hmm...maybe she busy? i think its best to just pretend u didnt know that and do what comes to u naturally...hmm...maybe u just try to help her whenever u can and see how it goes lo...

wat u like about her?

855 SG

we are colleagues.....

and i dun think that the reasons of her being unhappy with me is because she is busy.... there might be something in her mind that i dunno Sad

i shall say that she seems to be my type of girl even through she is quite hot tempered sometimes and her presence gave me a special feelings towards her

teddybear10 SG

oic...

haiz...the feeling of being misunderstood...i understand...

hmm...while i understand love is blind...u just feel very comfortable with her around right? but generally hor, gf must choose those good-tempered and mild one...and not just rely on feelings only...

teddybear10 SG

hows ur relationship with her? ask her for lunch or dinner if on the way... as a normal colleague would...then see how it goes?

Jezmeister SG

crushes can last for years lol

Freedom Fighter SG

dont crush the girl yo, she might die

CannyOng SG

Be prepared to be very patience for a gal like that....

After 6 months,u still have good feeling towards her may be to ongoing presence of her as both are colleagues. Everyday see each other(especially working closely),it is easy to maintain that feeling.

Uncertain SG

TS... U said that crush can be easily forgotten likesay in a month or so. However, this is only true if u see her like once or twice a week.

But for ur case, she is ur colleague! U get to see her everyday and so her image will always be refreshed in your mind. This accounts for ur agony.

Therefore, it is best to keep your feeling and observe her longer to see if she is a ok-tempered person a not before embarking into r/s with her.

The real agony comes when she everyday scold u but u cannot get rid of her Twisted Evil Laughing

aluvguru SG

Hi 855,

Sometimes it's all in the mind. Did you give other girls a chance or deep in your heart you are still thinking of this girl day and night, especially u see her almost every day.

If you keep telling yourself that she is good and you can't forget her, then no way you can forget her and vice versa.

So if you start dating other girls and keep reminding yourself how bad tempered she is and all her other "not so nice" characteristics, it would be easier for you.

Cool

A Luv Guru

Zarks SG

can some1 explain why my best female friend who already has bf but still treated me too good,, not like normal fren.. she asked me out for dinner and called to be ther for me .. oh for no reason, i like this situation and i enjoy watching her eyes while talking.... we can talk with eyes to eyes for without turning away our head. for long time.... can last for 10 mins and its usually me who gave up looking at her pretty face Embarassed

popikachu SG

Crush can last quite long sometimes Wink

Just tell yourself to forget about her totally...

Zarks SG

aiya, only u can answer this question la...perhaps u shud know her more to see if she really is ur type.. bout the matter that she seems unhappy with u, why dont u tell her its really bother u that u think she is really unhappy bout u and tell her to bring it out.. if she still say no, then perhaps u're thinking too much...

u just have to communicate with her often, then u will know whether she has the same feeling or treat u like a little brother

everyone has a crush la.. just dun think it as love .. or more to infatuation ?

tinuviel07 SG

yah crush can last for years.. mine last for 5

<Precious> SG

Probably just an infatuation......... Razz

855 SG

i m ready to accept her bad temper

like what i said earlier, she is unhappy with me for reasons not known

yup i was too early and too impatient to release my feelings towards her

currently i have only this girl in my mind and yes, more often than not i hv been thinking of her

855 SG

but very hard since we works in the same place

also i do hope give more time to myself to at least observe her to see whether i should move on or continue

i think she also knows that i am bothered by her attitudes towards me but she still dun wan to say what's actually went wrong Sad

Sakuraflower SG

get to know the girl better

if u think that she is bad-tempered, maybe she had bad day

get to know her first.

I know that u like her but just be friend

From what u have describe, u seen to have a deep crush on her.

Then see whether u can stand her temper

express that u like her!

chose a right place, time and ways to express ur feeling

jia you! Very Happy Cool