Why people quarrel ?
We blame it on our nature but it is also within our control to
prevent quarrel and to solve the problem in a peaceful manner IF we
want to.
These are some of the ways:
It is important to regard others' point of viewpoint with utmost
respect and try to understand where they are coming from, even if
we do not agree with them. When we are sincere with others and
don't simply dismiss their viewpoint because it differs from our
own or seems unimportant in our eyes, relationships could have a
better chance of flourishing into something positive and trusting,
and everything just seems to fall into place. Respecting others is
also about respecting yourself.
If we are sympathetic, we will not be quick to blame others or be
so stubborn in asserting our own opinion. Many potential arguements
will not come to fruition. If each family member maintains his own
rigid viewpoint without considering the other's feelings, an
argument escalates that could have easily been avoided.
Many arguments and fights are also started by unkind utterance that
could have easily remained unspoken or been replaced with gentle
words. Unkind words are sparked when we are not playing attention.
Careless words can destroy relationships. If we use kind and gentle
words, things will turn out to be better.
Another way is to treat this marriage discussion like a business
negotiation and not to get personally with it.
