Unimportant issues of mine. :(

WhamBamTyMam SG

hey guys. i just need an outlet to vent my frustrations, or rather insecurities.

I seem to have been bitten by the love bug. Girl A being my object of desire. Its been about 20 odd days that we've "gone out" meaning no declaration of love, just hanging out to see how things goes.

Things have turned out quite well. Or maybe as well as i would like to think. Some information that you guys may need. We split costs when we do go out,sometimes not evenly but i definitely don't lose out. When i fetch her home, i usually get a hug. But this week it became a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Sounds good so far huh? now comes the bad part.

The things is I feel really insecure when im not with her. One example is she parties quite hard. More often then me. And yesterday there was some halloween party that she went as a bunny( extremely low cut top revealing a lacy bra). I really wonder why must she go to that extend to dress up? Is she trying to attract guys attention? like what for man. if shes serious about the thing going on between us.

I asked her during one of our time together about how does she view me. She said I'm a "prospect". apparently she told me about other guys that were after her but said they were "disgusting", "desperate" or "no hope". But i cant imagine if there are more "prospect".

Quite disturbingly is that we have not held hands, even though we are quite close. And the fact that shes quite an open girl also bewilders me. The only time that she does so is if she see a foreign worker around then she will wrap her arms around mine. then she will let go once we pass them.

From the outside it seems like shes trying to potray a very "open, fun, heckcare" kind of girl but somehow when im with her shes very different. almost "angel-like" must have "boundary and all".

What im concern is is she trying to pull a fast one over me? just using me for the moment to to fill in her spare time? Or worst dating other guys behind my back to get the best and freshes catch of the day? I've really asked her all this questions before but she told me that shes not seeing any other guys.
Sigh when would the insecurity end.

yiha093 SG

ok
im speechless Rolling Eyes

WhamBamTyMam SG

okay perhaps i phrased it wrongly. Very Happy
but i do like her. alot.

BenBenDeZhu SG

i see no real problem bah, but thats my view. you need to learn to be more “open” towards her behavior

hiphop2009 SG

and be open also Wink

Zarks SG

DO more research man, but dun hope too much..

Right now, just have fun.. no deep love or anything.. and see how things goes on after 1 year.. if she still the same like she does.. or mayb she show u some affection or watever

Just have fun 1st.. or mayb have something naughty

de_middle SG

nothing official yet & ur already questioning her dressing & where she goes Rolling Eyes

BadzMaro SG

Definately u will feel insecure. Just slowly make ur moves. Cause once she is yours.. u know others can only see. While u are the one..mmmm...mmmmm *smakcs his lips* u know what i mean. So now u just gotta work harder in getting her.

I think u just gotta make her feel comfortable and secure. Be the MAN. And just let her do her stuffs while u are there.. she will come back to you again once she is dont with whatever she is doing. I think she is that kind . But at least she tries to be all angelic in front of you.. coming back to you and all. So thats not too bad. Just dun act like an @ss hole or intrude on her stuffs. Only do so when in private.

My ex is kinda like how u describe.Guys always checking her out , approaching her and the way she dances.. is like dancing on an invisible pole.. *thinks back* oh yeah...girls that know how to move their hips like that... Rolling Eyes anyways... i let her have her fun. Cause in the end of the night/day she will still come back to me.N when u are around guys approach her , she dun really hiu them.. u know u got it takes to be her man.

BadzMaro SG

oh.. if u really are into whambamthankyouma'am...

maybe its HER feeling insecure about u.. LOL!

Laughing

k k kidding..

LatecomerX SG

Judging from your post and the topic title, I believe you are lacking confidence not only in her, but yourself as well. Work on your self-confidence first, will ya?

Uncertain SG

u will get lots of headache in times to come. Tell this girl u love about how u feel about her. And u get jealous when she wears like this.

UandMe SG

why have u not ask her to be ur gf yet?

beavan SG

u sure u want her as ur gf?

can u stand such behavior? if you can't, dun bother causing hurt to urself.

CannyOng SG

I see plenty of problems and troubles ahead...

I will say TS and the gal character are miles apart. If TS want her as longterm gf, Good Luck!

If u really treats her as object of desire,it's fine!

YouDonKnowMe SG

All the questions u're wondering abt her, how do they apply to you

tut4nkh4m3n SG

well your workin on it.. object of desire HA

WhamBamTyMam SG

haha apparently i phrased that part wrongly.

Self confidence is definitely not an issue with me. Rather its "pride & ego" that affects me most. Who would want to be made a cuckold of?

I probably would've asked her to be if not for the many questions in my head.

Zarks SG

aiya, just get her to be ur gf.. then whenever u feel boring dump her.. simple as that.. no need deep love for this cuz she seems create the insecurity inside u.. just have fun la

middlebutton SG

Hey man. I think that your problem’s a psychological one. If you feel so much for her, you have to make it known that you are all in. But if you are just going after her for fun (coughsexcough), then just treat her like dirt but enjoy the benefits that you reap. Regarding the other guys, she already told you that you are one of those ‘prospects’. Isnt that a good thing? I mean, there might be other, but you are one of them! So take this opportunity to show her that you are the one for her. In a ‘pick me, choose me, love me’ kind of way.