what to do if friends suddenly changed overnight?

last SG · 2007-10-26T16:08:49+00:00

Did u do something wrong? find new friends lah. Easy. Like dat u already if dey're true frens alr. Gd thing isnt it? Altho it hurts. dere smth on the brite s...

teddybear10 SG

FireIce SG

change to wat?

gremlins?

kramnave SG

Then you seek solace in SGF….

teddybear10 SG

i used to be very close with this group of friends. but overnight, they dun even want to talk to me liao. they just say they are busy all the time, but in my heart, i knew. when i asked, they didnt want to say why also and i dun even know what had happened... Sad

kramnave SG

Hmm, maybe give them some time. Perhaps you have offended them unwittingly ? Its good to think about it. Approach them again in a couple of weeks. Since Christmas is round the corner, it'll be good to send them some cards and let them know you still care. Hopefully you guys are back on talking terms by then Smile .

FireIce SG

maybe is misunderstanding
or u being sensitive

teddybear10 SG

i've tried that...they just said thanks...and then went off to have fun liao...

when i asked for outing, like we used to do...they said they are busy, will let me know when free...but i waited for a few months already...still no news...

sometimes when i reminded them later, they just suddenly lost their temper on me, after that no contact at all...later tried to sms, no reply...tried to msn them a few weeks later, they said thanks, they were busy, no time to reply...

always see them laughing and smiling away...its very hurtful

kramnave SG

aww…well, try to keep your perseverance and see how it goes for the next few months ? Else consider making new ones and start from scratch. Friends come and go. However if you meet good ones they’ll stick with you for decades.

teddybear10 SG

after that, i dun even feel like talking liao...

i also dun feel like talking to other friends also...dun feel like replying other people's sms or msn also...

when people tried to chat me up, even though i try to entertain them a bit, but in my heart, im still bitten by the experience...

maybe im not a good friend lo, better stay a distance from everyone else...

teddybear10 SG

thanks for the encouragement...

actually hor...if you encounter this experience, pls dun persevere no matter how good ur relationship used to be...

cause i either get scoldings or no replies de...this went on for months...

kramnave SG

Try to snap out of it soon. Not good to be socially passive for too long.

BadzMaro SG

are u a guy or a girl. For them to lose their temper when asked in your situation .. may have a few explanation.

If u are a guy.. maybe u are all touchy feely all gay.. u know. So as guys.. freak out man.. Laughing .. its about watching thier backs.. =P

But seriously...

Hello Kitty SG

tell dem to fo lah.

teddybear10 SG

they are guys and gals...im a guy...hurtful cause i really treasure the friendship lo...worse part is, i dun even know wat happened...

BadzMaro SG

There MUST be something. When u ask outing is it all together or what. Maybe some not ngam with some.. beh song or what. Or u are some wierd guy.. u dont act all gay and do wierd stuff i hope. Razz

dreamykite SG

friends come and go. old friends go, new friend come. don't be bothered so easily. Mix with new friends! Wink

Zarks SG

if changed to monster or got the sign hes being possessed.. oh god , i run even though hes goin to jump from 13th floor

Zarks SG

if like that hor,,, then leave them la.. they are such useless friend... why bother to have immature friends like them

popikachu SG

Maybe you are just a little too sensitive?

Frustrated_guy SG

Laughing Good one!

TS, what's ur age?

Yep, no such things as "Friends forever". Some of us have to learn it the hard way. For now, think what you truly enjoy and love to do and GO DO IT! Be it a hobby, travelling and stuff. You'll have a lot of time for that.