Exactly. 
But dhen , "focus on your carrier" isnt made out by other people .
Its made out by ourselves . Cuz guys scared "No $$ = No Honey."
Frankly speaking , take a look at this :
Going steady at youth age , the girl will see if he is handsome or
not . If handsome , most likely stead. If fugly , reject flat .
When grown up , the girl will see whether he got the "5 Cs" . If
don't have , no way of accepting him.
But well , that applies to some girls . I knew there are many girls
who are good ! 
The " Concentrate on your studies first ! Don't do other redundant
stuffs " Is really a pain in the arse. 
Everything about our youth life is study study study ! Doesn't that
seemed like 'no life' ? 
Even TV also shows this ! Movies aren't spared too !
When the kids play games they say "Wei wei ! Go study go study !
Exam coming liao ! Don't play so much games ! " Then their games
all throw away . Then after exams , some of their parents say "
Also no games ! Eu scored 90/100 , but lose out to that fatso ?? GO
STUDY THIS INSTANT ! Your holiday will be spent on studying ! No
playing for you this holiday !" This is too much . I know its for our well being , for fear that we might
not get a good job , but do you really think forcing your child
study would really help ? Even if he has gotten a good job , is
he/she truly happy?
No wonder so many guys have little experience in r/s and is seeking
for help . I really sympathize them .
