i slapped my boyfriend

last SG · 2007-10-20T21:26:10+00:00

After following this 'saga' for so many days did anyone realize that the TS has only posted once in this post and that was just the beginning? Where thereaft...

de_middle SG

move on then

cloud210 SG

Den is violent retaliation the only way a woman can use to deal with a man trying to take advantage?

I agree man and woman can never be equal, but we must do to our best to make it as equal as possible. How to equal if every time woman can slap man and get aways with it?

If a man sexually harrass a woman, and the woman slaps the man back. Can the man sue the woman for assault irregardless whether the woman counter sues or sues the man first for sexual harrasment?

If a female robber robs a man, with the aid of weapons and tools manages to win the man by force, and the man retaliates in the process. Is the man condemned of using violence against woman or should the man just do nothing and hand over the money??

what if the woman he loves threatens to harm his family whom he also love?

these may be isolated cases, all i'm trying to say, if your'r point is that man should never use violence against woman, shouldn't the females also do a reflection of themselves?

Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself - Confucius

If every girl abuses the fact they are the "weaker" sex, I'm certain most man is willing to give up their gift of physical strength and grow a womb. There are many things in the world that are more torturing than physical violence, emotional abuse is one of them.

Some woman just think their vagi** owns every other di** and vagi**.

rainee SG

I'm a girl, but I don't support petti's action of slapping the guy. Even if the guy threatened him, she is also in the wrong to have slapped him...It is basically a rash decision...the boyfriend is also in the wrong to have threatened her, but she shouldn't retaliate by slapping him...

selfobliged SG

what was his reaction?

tare SG

and only 1 hand to slap

angel7030 SG

Your bf said only, you can just walk away and refuse to acknowledge him further. Perhap later, he may apologise to you, if not, I dun think you have a good bf there.

For you, you are violent, you undertake the action of causing physical bodily hurt to someone, under the common laws, you are wrong.

Remember alway move away from a violence scene whereby both are in Hot mood, after a while, when things are cooler, think it over and you will find the answer.

Our action will alway reflect our behavior and characteristics, it is therefore important to change to adapt if you really want such a bf that you choose, let say if next time, in the kitchen, while you are chopping carrots and both of you have an arguement, and he says he will cook you up, guess you may just take the knife or chopper and poke into him.

Think it over ya, violent relationship is greatly not encouraged.

cloud210 SG

plus a face

Michaeled SG

The prescribed punishment must be reasonably equivalent to the harm caused to the victim, taking into account the manner in which the harm is expressed.

When he say: ''i'm going to splash hot water into your face'' did you apprehend an immediate fear of physical harm?

If so, then he would have assaulted you.

However, taking into account the fact that you responded in such a way as to cause some harm (or attempt to cause), it would be a persuasive basis for an inference of non-apprehension of fear.

Was your battery (a contact with another, whether or not amounting to hurt or physical pain, with an intention of causing such contact) a reasonable response to such a threat of violence, taking into account the injury caused by you and the tone of voice and manner of body position and gesture of your victim?

If not then
a) You will be culpable in causing harm to your boyfriend
b) liable to pay for any medical expenses as required

Was the response an effective (to the mind of the victim) way of preventing such a threat from being carried out? Or was the response a reckless act which would potentially accelerate the violent party into carrying out his aforesaid threat?

If so, then your act of slapping him was

a) Reckless as to endanger own life
b) A case of mutually-intended assault

All these should be adequate for your question of whether slapping your boyfriend is ''wrong''.

Is wife beating wrong? Is any physical harm caused to another wrong?

Of course.

Michaeled SG

A vocal threat of violence per se is not sufficient basis for any criminal charge to arise. If that was so, many of us would end up being locked up. The question to ask concerns both intent and potential to cause such act. You can't, for example, stab someone if you have no limbs. Was your boyfriend actually holding a cup of hot water? Or was he reasonably in a position to immediately acquire such cup as to present the victim with such expediency and threat as to apprehend the violence being carried out?

cloud210 SG

you lawyer ar? sound so pro Rolling Eyes

gunner77 SG

let bygones be bygones

BrUtUs SG

after so many posts TS still hvnt tell full story... Laughing

Sakuraflower SG

did u get scarred by him?

how can he splash HOT water on you..

it is not good to use violence.. it can lead to serious damages.

but if he did splash hot water on u first

And you slap him, it is a natural reaction..

well done, U did a good job to slap him!

u should have slap harder!

heehee! Laughing

jojobeach SG

Please don't paint a mountain out of a mole hill , OK ? The world is not coming to an end yet. We are not talking about criminal intimidation.
If your gf is running after you yielding a chopper or a chainsaw, I suggest you RUN, call 999 and hide.

I ain't no law enforcer, but I think there is something about classifying some actions as "self defense".

Yes, if EVERYY girl abuses the weaker sex theory comes true, then all men will be slaves. Rolling Eyes
Has reality knock on your door yet ? I doubt it.

Have you ever seen a chihuahua attack an Alsatian ?
I did, and it was pathetic case of a weaker breed fighting a much stronger breed.

Given this case, TS doesn't have a weapon, but her bf obviously does ( hot water), else he won't use it to threaten her.

jojobeach SG

Rainee and Angel,

May I know if either of you ever been in an abusive relationship ?

I have.

The problem here is, when you walk away from his threats, he believes you are afraid and is not able to retaliate.

Believing that he can actually subdue you with such act, he will use it again the next time similar scenario arises.

To shut you up, he will tell you that he will hurt you, and you walk away, quietly.

It was until I finally fought back, that he stop. Because he knows there are consequence to pay. A repercussion to consider.

So, as much as you don't approve with fighting violence with violence, trust me, it is a necessary evil.

And yes, it all started with verbal intimidation.

So to Petti,
If you havn't done it yet, it is time you walk away from the RELATIONSHIP, not just walk away from him.

cloud210 SG

So you'r saying women use violence against violence is right, men use is wrong?
Against your abusive relationship, if you sit down and think, there are many ways you can deal with a man trying to take advantage?

This is one way, just change the "gf" -> bf and "chopper or a chainsaw" -> hot water

Unless the bf was already holding a cup of hot water, I don't think slapping him is regarded as self defense, TS has not specified is he holding one at that time.

So you've seen, I've not seen, you're definitely right, i'm definitely wrong? You being in an abusive relationship before makes you more superior/expert than angel or rainee? I'm not questioning your experience, seriously none of us wouldn't want to go through what you've seen or been. You seemed to be very proud of what you've seen and been through and use it to put down others.

If the chihuahua attacks the alsatian because the alsatian pose a immediate threat, the attack is valid, win or loss is another story. If chihuahua attacks because he don't like that alsatian face, i'll say the chihuahua is stupid. Whether it is a win or loss, i believe the chihuahua should have accessed his opponent. Seriously, if the odds is severely against you, why would you want to attack head on?

There are many ways TS can do, like sue him for threatening and emotional damage or run, call 999 and hide when the cup of hot water is already on his hands like what jojobeach said. Impose a restriction order, to not let TS bf come close to her on the basis of him threatening TS.

I support Angel and rainee suggestions because they showed a higher moral, maturity and calmness in handling situations. TS is only heading for trouble with the law when she slap her bf. Even if TS don't get scalded by the hot water, she is on the way to an offence of assault. I believe the threat made by TS's bf is just to spike her, to allow her to make such a mistake.

And lastly, like jojobeach says, you should have walked away from the relationship. Use the law if such another scenario arises, this is the way to protect yourself.

jojobeach SG

Woah~

Here, give you a prize for being so hot blooded and combative.

If you insist, based on your assumption, you win, you are right.
I was wrong, me bad, me lousy. OK?

Actually, I wasn't proud , more like pain. Happy ?

dumbdumb! SG

apologise to us for what. go apologise to your bf if you mean it.

but really la. slapping him was really over the line. i'm not sure what happened between you two, but if you weren't happy in the relationship, or if you felt physically threatened, you should have just ended it.

not resort to violence.

cloud210 SG

Aiya the r/s also over liao, don't think so much Wink

Zarks SG

slap (slept) , slap (slept) more !!!

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