jealousy ?

last SG · 2007-10-23T01:06:25+00:00

Someone asked me this question (in a slightly different scenario though) and I explained it this way: 'Trust me, you trust your boyfriend - you just don't...

candyx3o SG

My bf & I are in different schools. We are only able to meet up once a week or so. He's studying in a co-ed school whereas I'm in an all-girls school. I somehow tend to be jealous & concerned about the girls he mix with. Is this kind of feeling normal?
Is it also normal to be jealous of the girls he once used to be with? I don't know who they are & whether my bf & these girls are still in contact. I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. Is there any way to not worry about such things? It's not that I do not trust him but I just have that feeling of jealousy in me. Is there any way to overcome it? Please advice. Thanks. Sad

gunner77 SG

go talk to him and ask him properly lor.
i tink the feeling is normal la.

btw who ask u to itch backside go all girls school ?

candyx3o SG

I already said, I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. I just want to know if there's any way to not worry about such things? For example, not to get all jealous over this.

Girls school that choice 3 years ago make. How to change now, too late already. Last time pressure from parents & teacher. So end up in girls school.

gunner77 SG

no need to be jealous la
if he really loves u, he will not do anything behind ur back.
maybe u could spy him by asking his close friend for details ?

BrUtUs SG

still young la so no need get all crazy over bf/relationship stuffs... jz enjoy the time...

candyx3o SG

Is not I want to be jealous, is that I cannot stop myself from being jealous. I trust him, but I cannot help having that feeling of jealousy. I doubt I'll ask him friends, most probably he'll know that I asked. & I'm not that close to his friends either.

candyx3o SG

I just want advice from people here, if possible. Don't come in & tell me that I'm young & all those crap. If you think I'm young then it's your choice whether to advice or not.

gunner77 SG

go and sleep la
tmr got school...

candyx3o SG

Still early Laughing

gunner77 SG

wah 12.30 liaoz still early ?

freedom4ever SG

hmm… if u trust him, u won’t be feeling jealous right? u feel jealous mean your relationship is not that stable right?

candyx3o SG

i dont sleep so early. anw just now slept already Smile

gunner77 SG

Surprised
so wat school are u in?

candyx3o SG

That's what I want to ask. If it's normal to be jealous like that. I mean, even if I trust him, & I would say I do, I just cannot stop myself from feeling jealous.

cApitaland SG

im curious. mind telling which school?

tkgs
rgs
plmgs
cgs
or the ij schools.
etc..

if you love him. you shud trust him
keep telling yourself that. or you can up the level of your relationship so he thinks only of you. jus dun be obsessive.

candyx3o SG

gunner77 & cApitaland; sorry cannot reveal my school.

gunner77 SG

ZZZ......
lesbian school. too shy to say

candyx3o SG

Originally posted by cApitaland:
if you love him. you shud trust him
keep telling yourself that. or you can up the level of your relationship so he thinks only of you. jus dun be obsessive.[/b]

Mind elaborating? Don't quite get your point.

I trust him. I know he won't do anything behind my back. But, it's that feeling of jealousy I cannot control. That's why I want to know if I'm too sensitive, or whatever you call it. Is it normal to feel this way. Maybe girls could share what they think. They'll know better than guys, right?

candyx3o SG

Girls school =/= lesbian school. Co-ed schools would have lesbian cases too, but just that it's more in girls school cos the population bigger. But if you think so, go ahead.

cApitaland SG

up the level? need i say more. lols. Cool