my gf has been in her new job for 2 months now. and i suspect
she is having an affair and cheating behind my back.
history: we have known each other for 2years+ and have been
together for 1yr+. she started in this new job for 2months already
and i started noticing that she has sorta been distancing in the
things we talk about and in the schedule of her daily life. so for
the past 2 months i trusted her and spent time with her as usual.
there was a period of 2weeks where i was super busy and couldnt
meet up with her, she didnt even call OR sms me unless i initiated
it. i felt we were drifting apart.
she had a history of lying to me about things previous, small
matters, white lies in her own words.
but yesterday i guessed her email password and managed to get
in.
she has been having a private correspondence with a guy in office,
chatting over email, 100s a day.
as i started prying deeper.
they had sex on many ocassions. (i recalled and on those days she
said she was tired and slept as early as 9pm)
their conversations were explicit. detailed.
he asked her if they were dating. she said yes. (inside i was
hurting)
they flirted with each other. courted each other. called each other
nick names. stole kisses and groped each other when no colleages
were around.
my god i was hurt. and am still hurting so bad.
i felt i needed to confront them. but am afraid of losing this
relationship...
how should i go about this??
depressed.distressed.dejected.
the hardest part is to hold a forced smile when i see her.
sigh.
we had plans to get married next year. we had so many plans. but
she couldnt even resist this simple temptation. while i have been
holding on ever SO staunchly to this rs. sigh. he was in the right
place. at the right time. i guess that was stronger than the 2years
of bond we have built.
many times she said he was just a colleague, one that gives her a
lift to work everyday. i cant. cos i live too far. on the other end
of the island.
he sends her home everyday too. sometimes they head to the beach
afterwork. sometimes they go back to their place. and
coincidentally her last sms to me would be "fone low bat,
ttyl!".
and the emails on the next day would be full of explicit details.
which i shall spare you guys of.
we had promised each other to a monogamous relationship. but now
that i cant even believe her words, what is there left?
please help me salvage us...
