just to add...
Btw, u know... in a fight of a couple, some of us might feel that
they are always right, they are forever the winner in the game.
However, let pause and contemplate why is winning so important for
us? What is the real meaning of "winning" ? And what if we fight
and won, but the other party have lost their dignity/face. Then
they harbored hatred and grudges. So should we be proud of
ourselves and be happy when we won? In reality, the black/false and
white/true does not have a clear boundary. Who is the winner and
loser depends on our perception, on how we interpret the situation,
our expectation and how we want to see it. We must be really clear
of what we really want and having the right objective in mind to
solve this situation in a peaceful and amicable manner.
When both spouses r hot-headed, they could have difficulties
solving the situation. Right timing,with a cool and cautious mind
is very important. Don't take things too personally during the
confrontation. Or avoid argument if both of u can't take
confrontation, it takes two hands to clap, if one hand don't clap,
there will be no sound. If possible, do seek marriage counsellings
to sort out the differences again. Actually, u can try what i have
said in the previous posting- sending flowers, a present etc. There
might not be a need for a confrontation at all. Ur woman needs to
know that u love her. Learn to hong her. : )
All the best.
