i dont know what to do ):

candyx3o SG

hi. im quite new to this forums. & have been reading posts here & there. i have a problem & really wish to let it out. hope i`ll get advices from here (:

i have been with him for 2 weeks already. although its been 2 weeks , but we have only seen each other a couple of times , & once in this 2 weeks. seriously , i dont expect us to b going out every day or two , cos we`re really staying v far away from each other.

recently , he has asked me out. & of cos , i was looking forward to that day. but he cancelled it cos his friends asked him out. & this has made me think , before i accepted him , 2 friends who also know him [but not v close] have advised me about him putting his friends before girlfriend. thats what they thought at that point in time , but i didnt believe it & just went ahead. accepted him.

that day he cancelled out plans , he postponed it to today; 2 days later. & he cancelled it again ._. cos he woke up & msged me that he was lazy to step out of his house. okay , i accept. & just tell him i dont mind. he told me that he wants to go out on thursday , which is 4 days from now.

& the last thing is that , is it normal for us to b communicating through smses rather than phone. cos he doesnt take initiative to call; & i dont want to cos im afraid i`ll b stuck & nothing to say.

can leave advices & what you think. really wld b appreciated ><

selfobliged SG

if he really loves u, he would sacrifice his time for u.

gigabyte14 SG

he's not really for a r/s

guys who are ready can juggle these 2 things together

so for now, just remain friends

and don't have high expectations for this, or you'll be disappointed

you're going too fast, slow down too.

and lessee, you age is about 13-15?

candyx3o SG

yeaps , 15 .. why do you say its too fast ? ><

gigabyte14 SG

as i said, just remain friends for now

you don't have to push things that fast

and also, what do you see in an irresponsible brute?

breaking a date because he was lazy, stupid excuse

and also, a phone call, is often initiated by the guy, he should make the first move, so what are you so afraid about?

anyway, if he postpones the date again, that means he's avoiding you, then sorry to say, break it up.

Rejected SG

15? ummm.

BadzMaro SG

small small age.. tan lian ai liaw... so cute!! puppy love.. is so innocent!!

Razz

gigabyte14 SG

dun paedo hor Laughing

Darkness_hacker99 SG

15?

Seriously, you are too young for a relationship now. And I don't see anything good about that guy which you mention.

I guess he's just toying your feelings. He'll dump you after gotten what he want - sex.

gigabyte14 SG

don't think it's sex now

he's not advancing leh

hisoka SG

break lah. dun waste your time.

gigabyte14 SG

ask yourself about this

you wanted the r/s to move on further right?

there you have it, your answer.

candyx3o SG

what if he doesnt postpone it anymore. should i still continue with this ma ? cos sometimes i just very negative. dont know why , & cannot stop myself. from thinking of all the worst outcomes. say break it , like very easy. but i like him de ma , & why you say its fast. i know him quite long le , then recently he asked ma .. ><

& i dont agree 15 very young .. its how you go & handle this r/s ma. maturity cannot b measured by age ><

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Rolling Eyes

Certified that you're still young.

candyx3o SG

true , but its normal , isnt it. cannot b we dont meet up at all or just once a month; something like that ? Confused

gigabyte14 SG

i'm saying, you're pushing the r/s too fast, you're associating the friendship with the r/s.

and yes, maturity cannot be measured by age, but you sure you AND him are thinking mature and rationally?

gigabyte14 SG

a r/s doesn't mean must meet up, got contact and stuffs can already

and look at his personality, he's treating you like some kind of toy

i believe that in a r/s, a guy must treat his gf like a princess

he treats you like dirt, and you're accepting it??????

candyx3o SG

i cannot say im very sure bahs. mayb you`re right. Confused

dunamis SG

Dear girl,

It is not love. It is not even a relationship.
He is not mature, not having enough fun yet, will not be committed.
You are underage for sex, its illegal.
The two of you, concentrate on your studies.
No academic means no good career,
no good career means low income,
low income means alot of things, especially when singapore living standards are so high...I see how you survive!

Your time is to make alot of friends and study. When you grow older, you want to study...it will be very difficult. So, do cherish the time when you have the opportunity to study, next time when you have a career, a family, i see how you study!

BadzMaro SG

Nowadays young kids keep thinking they are mature and experience when experience , wisdom and maturity comes with age. Enjoy your youthful days. You grow older by the day and not younger. There is plenty of time to be matured and experienced , in relationships , its pretty much the same.