Originally posted by ItchyArmpit:
This thing happened today...
After the whole thing happen... I have been wondering did i do it
right? Was i too rash and harsh?
It was like this. A, B, C, D and Z. We were good friends and always
stick together... All of us, knowing that A's mother called A to go
home as soon as possible. All of us know that A's mother is very
strict.
A, didnt want to pang seh us and gone to eat with us... excluding
himself that he didnt eat and just waited... we gone to the bubble
tea shop we always visit... but today sch dismiss early cuz of exam
and the shop must about 15 mins more then open... C, hoping that
the shopkeeper is inside the shop. D remembered that Z got
the shopkeeper number, so Z called....
Z promised the uncle we are waiting outside the shop, and even
hurried the shopkeeper to the shop.
A then said he need to go 1st, if not time wont allow him to go
back on time. B, C, D and I followed A as A just now didnt pang seh
us and even waited for us to eat finish... he accompanied us so
much and we thought we shouldnt pang seh him.....
Z then buay song said " wah lau eh, u all say go then go, how i ans
to the shopkeeper? i promise him we will all be outside the shop
waiting." few secs later, he scolded again" wah lau, just now i
talking on the phone u all nv tell me A need to go" few secs later,
again... " wah lau eh, u all very fuk nia, CCB!"
then later on he keep scolding the same thing... untill i cannot
bear with it anymore, i scolded back " eh, just now tell u
A need to go home early u nv listen always talk loudly wan act act
lidat, then on the phone u nv even ask us then u promise, u think
we wat? and u thinking intterupting a phone talk is very
mannered? then u say we say go then go, then u promise we
need to wait?"
did i do right, or am i wrong?
Note: Z has been very very xia lan and very very irritating, he is
a very ill-mannered boy, always wan act good, think he boss... and
many more, we all tell him then he say our attitude changed to the
worse... ( background of Z)
I'm trying to be as neutral as possible here (but I think I'm
*unconsciously* siding with Z), but point out my mistakes if I do
make any. I have excluded the background info about Z as it may be
biased. No offense, TS.
Firstly, did any one of you guys asked or hinted Z to call? Or was
he acting like a smart Alex then?
And you should have interrupted the call if any
one of you is in any way in disagreement of the arrangement made by
Z, that is, to wait for the shopkeeper to open his store.
Let me guess something (which is quite obvious here) - A is more
well-liked by your group as compared to Z. (You won't label him as
"Z" if he is well-included into your group, right? 
) So,
I mean, it maybe natural to view A's "pang-seh-less" is more
important than Z's accountability to the shopkeeper. But by leaving
with A, you guys are just pang-seh-ing Z. And imo I think you have
indeed been a little too mean to Z. While he was nagging about you
guys leaving the shop, you could have stfu him by:
1. Offering some sort of "compensation" like waiting for him on the
next occasion if he is down for some detention or something and
give him a pat on his shoulders before leaving the shop. It's not
that easy to face an uncle who is disappointed to see only one
customer standing when he's expecting half a dozen - alone, as a
student.
2. Call back the storekeeper and explain to him the situation.
(takes quite some confidence to do it) It won't kill him to open
his store 15 minutes earlier, but by not answering for the
departure, Z may lose trust from the storekeeper.
3. If my first question was a positive, you should have stayed at
the shop as it was partially your intention to wait for the
storekeeper to arrive. And instead, offer Option 1 to A.
Anyway, not much meaning in dwelling into events that have
happened. Ultimately, if you think you are in the wrong, just treat
him better next time round, or apologise to him directly if you
dare. Otherwise, just continue life as usual. Incidents like this
may fade away eventually as time pass by, but if you guys are
putting him at the bottom of the priority list at each occasion, he
might just break off with you guys, or continue to be a brainless
asssucker for as long as he like.
And - I'm not Z, or in any way affiliated with Z, directly or
indirectly. Just leaving my liang fen qian here. 
