1. Do Not Expect Others to Bring You Happiness.
All by yourself, you are a complete and perfect creation. All the
answers you need are within you. Do your spirit work. Nurture,
cherish, honor, and feed your spirit. Another person cannot fill a
hole in your soul that exists if you do not love yourself. Reach
out to help others. Extend love to them. Give, and you will
receive.
2. Make Friends and Be a Friend.
Don't sulk because your friends don't call. Everyone is busy. Call
them; they will really appreciate it. Make different kinds of
friends. And they don't have to be friends with each other. Join
your area's Community Centre, Yoga class, Scuba Dive... etc Just
get out there and meet people.
3. Extend Yourself (Go Out of Your Way for Others).
Call someone who is lonely or sad. Take a friend to lunch. Bring
flowers to someone. Open the door when a person needs help. Let
someone go in front of you in the market when they are in a hurry.
Stop for pedestrians. Be patient and considerate. Don't take it
personally when another person is a grump . . . maybe they just got
bad news or they are sick. Be the good guy. You'll love
yourself.
4. Do Not Gossip.
We all do stupid things. Your importance is not increased when you
belittle another. In fact it makes you look ugly. Gossiping is
petty, hurtful and low. It can become an ugly habit. Try doing
something nice for someone else instead. You'll feel better about
yourself.
5. Look Out for Toxic Petty Little People.
You know the type. They complain, are negative in their outlook,
are unkind, depressed, mean, and self-centered. They cheat you and
make use of you in a friendship. They will suck the joy right out
of you, and you can't fix them. They are the only ones who can
resolve their issues. Protect your own well-being by avoiding their
destructive and negative energy. Don't be a victim.
6. You Cannot Solve Other People's Problems.
People will come to you with their tales of woe. You can offer them
kindness or be a sounding board for them, but they are really the
only ones who can solve things for themselves. You cannot travel
their journey for them; we must each walk our own path.
7. Do Not Let Another Person Crush Your Spirit.
Some people are hostile, negative or angry all the time. If you
live or work with someone like this, it can destroy your spirit.
You begin to feel hopeless and defeated. You deserve better. Do not
let these people trick you into thinking that you are the cause of
their difficulties. Negative people need to take ownership of their
own emotional baggage, problems, and issues. You have a right to be
happy. You deserve it. You will spread joy and radiate love.
8. Keep Your Own Free Will.
We all have responsibilities and obligations. We can't always do
exactly what we want or get our own way. Some of this is good
because we are growing and learning how to cope. But if you feel
your own needs are never being met, or you are feeling devalued, or
if you have to give in to another's wishes more than to your own,
then that relationship is probably destructive to you. You do not
deserve to be mistreated by anyone.
9. Look Beyond a Person's Actions and Try to See Their
Goodness
Some people are hurting and sad, and they act like jerks. Most
people don't want to act jerky; in fact, they probably hate it and
themselves. If you can see that spark of goodness in them, then you
will be free of being hurt by them. Can you reach out to them with
kindness and see how far it gets you? Maybe there is a wonderful
person inside of them struggling to get out, and you just might
help open that door. (Note: If a person is abusive to you, that is
not okay. Leave that situation immediately.)
10. Don't Let Anger Take Over in an Argument.
You'll regret what you say; and you will resolve nothing. Everyone
will shut down. So keep a cool head. If necessary, detach yourself.
Don't take anything personally, and try to reach a resolution or
compromise and be in control. "When anger enters, reason flies out
the window."
Stuff to share taken from somewhere with some amendments
