Haha, why u keep on saying "Damn gay damn gay?" Unless you are a
woman and u kinda like the girl, then its REALLY gay.
Anyway, just add on friendster. No harm. Just pretend say that you
were surfing through friendster when u came across her and so add
her. Then ask her for her MSN. From there, take 1 thing at a time.
Maybe ask her out, on the pretext of wanting to know what happened
during the 4 years you 2 were in separate school. Nothing wrong
with old classmates reunion mah. From there also can find out if
she got bf or not etc.
In conclusion if u wanna be shy, then of course u won't get the
girl.