'I only think of you as a friend'

last SG · 2007-09-07T20:59:41+00:00

Just be normal lor. Gals changes their mind very fast. Currently she must be concentrating on her studies and do not want to talk about relationship.

dragoncloud SG

Hey, I just got rejected by the gal i like for the past year Very Happy First try in my life and got rejected. My closest female friend in fact. But i'm not that sad, just a ok got rejected feeling, maybe cause i expected this le. I've hidden the fact that i like her and she alway got hint me that we're only friends but i decided to be honest. Called her on the phone and told her and she rejected me Confused Maybe that is a good thing that she's honest and now I can stop thinking so much Very Happy Studying to forget about this, since exam coming le... Crying or Very sad

But i'm worry that our friendship will not be like b4. How should I handle this now? How to face her? How to make this less awkard? Confused

Gals, will you still be good friends with guys you reject?

Hope my experience will not discourage anyone here from being honest about your feelings Very Happy

FireIce SG

yah, can continue to be frens
provided the rejected party is able to accept it and relli be frens only.......do not bear any hopes..........

vIn.Warrior SG

she'll be more cautious of her actions and speech when she meet u.. definitely, she'll know u'll still want to get close to her & she'll try to stay away from u.

unless she's those v open-minded type

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Yea. This is top-in-list factor when I consider confessing.

<Precious> SG

There will of course be this feeling of awkwardness immediately after the situation. Avoiding all contact with each other for a while may be one way to go about it. This avoidance period will serve to heal the "strained" process. As you busy getting on with living your life, so will the significance of the rejection pale and the awkward feeling bugging you lesser. When the akwardness bugs tou to an insignificant level, then re-iinitiate contact. Hopefully, she would also have gotten over the akwardness for you two to resume where you guys have left it.........

In any case, rejecting you now doesn't mean you have no more chance! She could be testing you for all you know! If you really feel for the girl, you will not abandon hope on her after just one rejection. You'll keep trying to win her affection!

Her rejecting you could mean that she's not ready for you at that particular point in time, nothing else...... So it's your call now:- Give up on the girl and forever be a loser or persevere in your affection for the girl and stand a chance of winning her heart eventually..... Wink

Zarks SG

Mind to know how close r u and her?

de_middle SG

this is also the reason why some guys prefer not to confess Neutral

DjMatrix SG

u shld ask her face 2 face man, r/s things over fone is not good brother

dragoncloud SG

we talk to each other on msn sms, see each other everyday. Think she see me as her brother Confused She say I'm really just a friend to her

Should i appear on-line today? Do i act as if nothing happened? Should i start converservsation with her? wat if she talks to me?

Now i know why i not feeling sad le Shocked
Its because i dun wan her to feel bad about making me sad Sad Sad Sad
AHHHHHHHHHH cannot think so much... must do work distract myself Sad Sad

dragoncloud SG

I know but now study break le, no school, no chance to see her. Then i'm thinking too much le cannot study Confused Have to tell her to see if i'll think less about it. NEED TO STUDY Very Happy

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Well, go online and tell her not to worry about you. Tell her that you're fine. Very Happy

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Yes. Agree.

Fire Star SG

Being honest is better than being a liar. Good that she tells you straight. What if she lied and in the end break up?

browniebaobao SG

u juz said study, exam is coming.

so, GO STUDY LAH!

wahlew..

at this time come bother abt such things, still can start thread somemore Rolling Eyes

XenStar SG

just go back to normal. tell her u still want to be friends, and everything will be alright!

and its perfectly normal to fall in love with someone whom you treat as a sister, since 2 of my ex gfs, and my current gf was my god-sister.

so love works in many ways, just hope for the best Wink

dragoncloud SG

Ya Shocked kinda thk her for being honest already. She's avoiding me le.... Confused
Not on-line at the usual time Shocked She might be avoiding me Shocked

Very Happy At least i dun regret doing this, at least now i know......... Sad

XenStar SG

lol brownie.. u must rmb that even if he started studying now, his mind would not be into his books, but into this problem. what use is it to do something just for the sake of doing it, right?

XenStar SG

hey don't look at it this way, perhaps she just needs time to think things through? and when she's done she'll tell you everything

yes, the waiting can be the hardest part

dragoncloud SG

Damn, wat you say is soooo right. Can i fall in love with you instead Embarassed ?

Nvm me....I wu liao.. Confused

Studying notes on com now... appearrng off-line... not talking to anyone....
Just need to let it out somewhere Sad

oOprinceOo SG

awww. so sad lol.