'I only think of you as a friend'

last SG · 2007-09-07T20:59:41+00:00

Just be normal lor. Gals changes their mind very fast. Currently she must be concentrating on her studies and do not want to talk about relationship.

LyonK SG

Friends can always be lovers. Maybe not today, but in the near or distant future.

jojobeach SG

I have guys who are friends and confess their feelings to me, quite often.

Those that remains in contact and friendship are those who accepted my rejections gracefully.
Many of them moved on and found their other half.

Those that disappear are the one who wounded their ego.
Sometimes, when we met up in gatherings, they will often try to avoid me or behave very awkward.

As long as you accept that rejections are common during your search for your other half. You will not take it too hard .

She will feel bad about the rejection, only if she knows you didn't take it well.
Nobody likes to be the reason for someone else's agony.
When she knows you have taken the rejection well. She will be OK.

CannyOng SG

Yr exprience indeed discourage a lot of people. Laughing
Gals and guys behave different. Being truthful to gal in such situation has complicated it even more. Infact,it will be better not to be truthfu to her!

U know the result and she hint u many times,why still press forward?
I tell u,yr friendship will be seriously affected. I believe she is a very responsible and good friend. Or else she will not hint u many times as she doesn't want to mislead u. Usually this kind of gal after u confess to her,they will keep a distance from u and yr friendship will never be the same a gain. Only time and yr action of only just be a friend will change it. But it may takes a long time and no gurantee back to normal good old days..

Zarks SG

NOt really, my dear. Sometimes even though u know its impossible, its just u need to say wats inside your heart cuz u really like that person...i bet at least TS never regretted saying this.. his main concern now is if its possible to restore close friendship like before.. TS, i think u can..

Just treat her like normal.. but beware of how u behave .. body language can tell everything.. if u act cool guy like nothing happened before, i believe she can feel comfortable talking to u instead of scared of leading u into wrong way again.. u can simply say u wan to concentrate career or studies 1st for now.. love is always last..

Its hard i know , tats y u need to practice it often , then u urself will feel comfortable bout it .. and it will b ok soon for both of u ... dont worry , if shes your's , she will come to you..

As a man, we need to have good planning bout our own studies and career.. u be that one 1st .. bout love,, no need to rush.. u'll find one when u least expected...

Chill out, ok ? Just treat her like normal fren.. no need feeling awkward.

All the best

dragoncloud SG

This dude knows me sia Smile

CannyOng SG

The problem is, are u willing to take the risk of having no regret or losing a very best friend for yr lifetime? Especially if she got a bf. SHe will place bf in a higher priority than u. She afraid bf may misunderstood if she still goes out with u often plus she know u like her since u confess to her. Which choice will she pick?

Very simple,avoid u to prevent jeopardise of her r/s.

If u cannot afford to lose her as a friend. Don't even confess to her if u know u got no chance!

dragoncloud SG

I'm sure we can still be friends ba... we're considered quite close Confused
I just had to let her know... even if she doesn't like me...I'm tired of hiding it...
And i still havn't regret it YET... lets see if she avoids me...
Very Happy She might be studying... so i'm not messaging her or anything...
Lets just wait till the exam is over...

CannyOng SG

So if she reallys avoid u and give up this friendship, will u regret yr decision?

Short Ninja SG

I only think of you as a friend- How many reasons can you think of when someone says it.

1) You too ugly to be my lover
2) Using you as a back up sex object
3) I am telling you this because I oreddy know I got no chance with you
4) You are underaged and besides we are related
5) When you damn tulan with that person
6) I dont even know your first name
7) so you wont follow me everywhere and sms me every 30 seconds
Cool Too shy to be seen with you anywhere
9) I wont be inviting you to my wedding
10) Talk to me only when your dog dont even want to listen to your problems

DrAlienology SG

last year april i was faced with the same issue haha

she did say that we can remain as friends as she didnt want to talk about this kind of issue, but she still gave me the told turkey treatment for about 3-4 days before everything is normal again.

oh well last year dec i asked her again and didn't succeed. so yeah.

dragoncloud SG

For 1)I'm not ugly ba... at least nobody say i'm...Average looking
2)=.= we're not kids but we're not having sex, dun think she is oso
3)why no chance? She's available, so am i, unless she likes someone else
which is possble
4)we're of same age, we're related as good friends
5)you wouldn't be friend with someone you're tulan with for over 1 year ba
6) =.=
7)I'm not a stalker... maybe can stop sms her so much
Cool why too shy? I'm not a monster
9)Hope i'll be at her wedding, and not sitted down there
10)Dun keep dogs

Haha she initate conversation to me le... but only school work... Confused guess she dun wan to talk about it oso

Short Ninja SG

Human & Social Biology Question

dragoncloud SG

Think i know her well enough to say that she wouldn't avoid me. Neutral
And i wouldn't regret my decision Cool Even if she give up this friendship, i wouldn't

pokkagreentea SG

wow, I truly admire your guts man! at least, you took the courage to confess your feelings and at least, you know what she sees you as. As long as she doesn't see you as an enemy, it's still fine.

just continue to be yourself and talk with her like normal friends.

pokkagreentea SG

good. must be mentally prepared.

dragoncloud SG

Not problem with continuing being friends

BUT Neutral

Anyone have any idea how to change her perception of me being JUST a friend to her?
How to change my position in her life and begin from new angle?

I'm not giving up here.... Cool But NS next year... she go uni... get to know hunks, me still hunk in training Neutral Neutral Neutral A bit no hope sia Neutral Neutral

Lovelorn? SG

You are just like me! The girl that I like treats me like a good friend and nothing else! But I'm going to make something happen between us no matter what. So I suggest you don't give up so soon ya? Smile

Patrik SG

Sad to say,in today's world,u gotta be good looking (Average looking isn't enough),rich and of course,the feeling.

AMEN567889 SG

which jc u from? Very Happy

dragoncloud SG

Shocked Stranger on the internet Shocked I'm not telling you Cool

Very Happy Then lets both Jia you together...After exam... Confused

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