mood_inn SG I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me! I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed. He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him. Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =(
gigabyte14 SG love is blind la it comes from the inside, not the outside just tell the critics to fark off
allentyb SG OMG, i can't imagine, if i am 1.61 cm, i would rather kill myself, seriously, just move with the flow, and if god's will it, both of you will be together bah
allentyb SG then i ask you, would you mind having a girlfriend who is 12 cm taller than you, what if you want to kiss her, and then you have to stretch your feet just to kiss her even i will not find anyone that is taller than me, not that i am complaining of my height
fudgester SG One of my cousins married a man shorter than her - by around 15cm, I should say. And their marriage has been strong.... they have had two kids since. Bottom line? If your love is strong enough, you don't have to bother with what other people say.
jam on a bread SG Yes of course you are superficial...but also can't blame you cause you know a lot of ppl like 'mian zi' if not why most go after pretty or handsome ppl? Even some crazy ppl also consider a small patch of pimples on the face as 'ugly' or unacceptable..don't say your height issues. Pls..it's just a difference in height..my friend also taller than me but I feel that I shld be the one protecting him even though he is fat & tall, but his character like mouse liddat & a lot of bad points also...like whining openly (ppl is do it discreetly, he mo paiseh one), scared of small roaches, scared of this & that.....piangz..he man or not
kiseki SG what others say dont matter . what matters is you . my advice is that you stay off getting into a r/s with him , until you can accept his height issue . or else , no matter how much you try , or how much he tries , the r/s will never work out . dont hurt him , dont hurt yourself , and dont hurt this friendship . think over carefully yea ..
allentyb SG have you folks consider the fact, he is shorter than her, and next time, when they are going to be together, what will be happening imagine this: you and him are window shopping.... and then guy is shorter than girl, and what would people think, i would think, he is the small brother of that girl, if they are going to hold hands together
browniebaobao SG nian ning bu shi wen ti sheng gao bu shi ju li ti zhong bu shi ya li but honestly, i dun think i will like a guy who is shorter than me also.. same height maybe still acceptable.. if i like him... but he can't forbid me from wearing heels. i enjoy the feeling of 'looking up' to my love one.
allentyb SG i knew someone is going to post that, and that is just an anime series, can't use it as a reference
