signals

jackdaniels SG · 2007-08-28T10:06:55+00:00

Jojo, you also know I low self esteem. Sian... Not so sure, just not looking for someone who isn't discreet. Look at all that crap I pulled with Mr G. Actua...

jackdaniels SG

Though this probably isn't much of an agony, I'll still appreciate some comments from forumers here.

Pitot SG

heh heh.

sorry, no comments. Mr. Green

Quinsy SG

Most probably interested in you. If you’re interested in him, then let him be and let it progress. If you’re not, let him know. Body language plays a huge part.

euc SG

so..

for now you just want to screw him?

jojobeach SG

Is he still single ?

If he is a bachelor, I say go for it girl.

If not, tongues will wag. Heads will roll.
Please don't jeopordise your career or his.

Have you dated any ang moh before ?
If you are a very self-conscious person, it ain't gonna be easy.

Anyway, no venture no gain.
Brace yourself for any rejection, just in case yah ?
And good luck.

de_middle SG

that's the summary Laughing

<Precious> SG

You need to isolate him from his and your colleagues, that is, get him out of the office to socialise with him in a place other than the office coz signals sent in office may not match those sent outside the office.

Try to get his mobile no to stay in touch. You may casually suggest going for a coffee after work. Guys do appreciate girls taking the initiative once in a while....

More observation needs to be cnducted before any conclusion can be derived.......
Stat tuned! Laughing

Zarks SG

hey 14 yo gal.. You are already adult rite? Stop thinking like a kid. If you're not thinking of relationship , then why think bout if hes interested in you.. cmon la.. just giving excuse ? Be friends 1st later you both wil have plenty time to talk if he somehow give you his email or watever.. Take things slow la

Conclusion: You're thinking too much..

jackdaniels SG

I have no idea whether he is taken (frankly it's not that important). No wedding ring, but then again few in my line will wear matrimony on their fingers. Dated one before but generally we don't gravitate. They are too far away from home and can't listen to soppy chinese songs or appreciate dialogue from HK films. It's alien.

Yeah I'm extremely self conscious. And have since woken up this morning in full consciousness. I'm awake. This is my boss's mate. I should just steer clear and keep my crap outside of work.

jackdaniels SG

Yep that's the summary.

jackdaniels SG

We don't work in an office. When he's not in an office he is doing something moving something carrying something thinking about something walking somewhere or talking to somebody. He has ADD (I think). If he dines alone someone interrupts him in less than a minute. In 5 minutes others join him. He is never alone. When he's alone and thinking I'm not in the position to walk over and make conversation because he's probably really thinking about something. Which is truly bad.

We finish work either midnight or 3am. There is no where to go sip coffee. He gulps coffee when he works, after wards he gulps beer when work is done and I go off when I finish. Nobody wants to stay in that crap place after their work is done. Well I did ask him if he was joining us for drinks last weekend, he said he was surely going to be there but never showed up. Only one of his friends did. And the company bored the hell out of him as well.

I cannot possibly find out about his availability from anyone else at work. Because it's so blatant if I even hint at it or ask. Tongues will roll and heads will wag.

jojobeach SG

What about the other guy ?

So, this one is your boss's mate. Tough call.
You should just sit back, wait and see if the fish is gonna come to your hook.
If he does, great ( if he is not taken, yes it does matter if both of you work in the same line.)
If not, don't initiate.

jackdaniels SG

No I'm a kid trapped in an adult's body. I'm just 13 and taking notes sometimes. Hey I agree I probably think too much. I'm female. I'm entitled to think way too much. I'm biologically programmed to think excessively and no one should fault me for that. Sometimes people flirt a little at work just to take the boredom out of the daily grind. Don't think there'll be too many opportunities to take it slow though, he's probably out of the country when work is done.

jackdaniels SG

Which other guy? Mr G? Mr G is still alive and probably acquiring new primate positions from his china counterparts as we chat. I told him there is nothing he has that I could possibly want anymore and he should stop contacting me since he isn't here with me. He pretends I was on PMS. Then pretends I never brought it up. All he could do is tell me occasionally that he misses me very much, which frankly to me is rubbish. Because he is a man and if a man wants me around, he could've easily just given me an air ticket and said Jackie, join me here for a few days. Because he hasn't offered, I am assuming he does not want me. His I miss you and I miss home, I hate my job sweet nothings should sing to 18yo girls who thrive on romance novels. I'm too old for that kind of crap.

jojobeach SG

Laughing

Very funny. Girl you do have a sense of humour.

Don't you have his email or mobile phone ?

Try this. Works all the time for me so far.

Send him an email or text message.

" May I buy you beer ?"

jojobeach SG

Yes Mr G Spot.

udontknowme SG

erm...............
at the place where i worked...pple openly flirted with others ...though it's (im guessing) all just for fun. after all, most are married....
work is work...if he flirts with u, play along lor...
but i wont suggest actually farking him...

jackdaniels SG

Jojo jie, I do that and it becomes some kind of private joke that he sends around or shows his friends, I am more or less done for. I buy him a beer is not an option. It's like a sleazy bar pick up.

jackdaniels SG

i don't know you (i hope not anyway)

I don't flirt at work. No need to flirt at work, can't be bothered to flirt at work. Work is too important to flirt around with. I probably outgrown it or I'm just a plain old bore. It's just sad pointless flirting at all if you're not even interested in getting laid. If you're too suggestive at all, you can sure as hell bet no one is going to give you too much respect. Maybe I haven't acquired enough to flirt and still be classy about it.

jojobeach SG

JD,

Have some confidence in your choice of man.

Surely, if he is such a shady character, he probably wouldn't be respected now, would he ?

Ok, so you think maybe beer is too sleazy.. how about a cup of gourmet/ irish coffee ? ( to perk things up ?) pun intended..... Laughing