Should I get involved ??

mistyblue SG

Not Your Problem, don’t make it yours

Wanda SG

It will be good if A can at least return part of the borrowed sum back to B & C. I have seen relationship between brothers that soured all bec of a similar situation. The brother who borrowed money never return the money, and yet continue to drive a car, spend money, didn't work on a stable job, and yet want to borrow still more money from his not-rich brother.

As to whether TS should speak to A, it depends on your r/ship and how close, and how open / comfortable you guys are in discussing personal matters such as this. Would it help if you say something like "I appreciate it that you return me the money, but I think B & C are also hoping / will appreciate it if you can return some to them...." ? But then A may answer: "Ya, I will return the money to B & C." Then end of story....and back to square one? Razz

MiX Metal SG

I understand what u mean, but I can't just sit on the side watching this friendship destroy itself.

The 4 of us have been best friends for the past 14 years, we grew up together and have been through thick and thin.

I told myself that I'll not get involved unless I can come up with a solution that will benefit everyone and that at the end of it B & C will get their $$$ back and the 4 of us will still be friends but till now I still can't figure out how ..... Confused

sillyme SG

Yes, but not totally true. It depends how much one values friendship over money.

I think B and C don't mind the money, but they were made to feel like a fool.

MiX Metal SG

That is 1 of my worry as well

MiX Metal SG

I don't think they are mad at him for the $$$ as well, they jus want the truth.

as there was a time before this incident that C is very unhappy with his job and is thinking of leaving his ex-company but is afraid that he'll not be able to find another job right away and "A" told him that if he can't find a job right away, "A" will past half of his pay to "C" every month to help him pull through until C finds a job.

Zarks SG

Then use that way !! wahahahaha !!! then A will definately pay it !
Ask B to do the same !

I thk A has enuff money to pay back , man. but hes just too lazy to get it from the bank.. and your fren never seems to push him to pay back.. so he might thk "ok,i'll play later.. then later.. then later.. then future.. then 10 years later LOL

Tell A's family.. simple as that, Final solution and also the most evil one

Mayb A is lending the money from you guys to help his gf or wat.. n he too waiting that person to give him back so that he can give u all back asap.. yea... i thk this is the way.. ya.. hes using u guys money to help some1 important.. yea.. like TS said,, he always pay back money but y not this time ? yea.. sure to help some1 important... tats y he keep giving excuses to not pay yet... Ask A bout this if hes helping some1 n not letting u guys knw bout it

Simple as tat..

If you wan to involve, go ahead, U might find the truth which A dont wan B n C to knw..

Case closed...

MiX Metal SG

I don't think we should get the family involved, we're adults no need for such actions. But thanks for the thought. Smile

twigzeeq SG

Ever tried tO get a lOan frOm A since he can affOrd tO gO hOlidays? Paste pOst-it nOte on his letterbOx... 'owe $$ pay $$'

If all cant be resOlved, u pay on A's behalf if u can affOrd it... (since u said not a big sum?) Then everyOne can live happily ever after... heheee..

MiX Metal SG

How I wish things are as simple as it seems ...... when I say its not a small sum I mean its not a 5 figure sum ......... so if I can pay B & C back for A I would have done that long ago .................... Mad Mad

littlestream SG

any chance A forgot about the loans?

i am just thinking, if u approach A with it, A may gather you, B n C have been talking. while A is not faultless but that's gonna hurt, won't it?

best is for B and C to approach A. do it gently and in a jestly manner? or how about start with "hey, know what? remember that $$$ i loan you? well, i kinda short on cash right now. when u get the chance, perhaps you can return it?"

$$$ is a sensitive issue. btw, i've NEVER gotten back what i loan out. so, i've gone smart. any talk about $$$, i take off!!! Laughing

MiX Metal SG

Thats my worry as well..... think I'll try to convince B & C to try asking A about it again and see how things turn out before I get myself involved.

Scion79 SG

A is clearly taking B and C for a ride.

Happened to me before. My friend defaulted in payment of a loan I made to him citing that he has financial woes. Turn out, that bugger bought a new car and the best part was that I didn't hear this news from the horses's mouth. I got my money back after a confrontation with my friend, who reluctantly paid up.

Well B and C should likewise confront A. If he's really financially constrainted, that's fine. But if he's taking you guys to be his god of fortune, then please terminate this friend after getting the principal amount. Such friends are not true friends. Gd luck!!

Cheers

Guardx SG

Ask B and C to loan the same amount from A.
When A asked fro the momey to be returned say that the money is returned.

MiX Metal SG

I hope that I dun have to terminate this friendship but from the way things are going ..... I think its going to happen, jus a matter of how soon.

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