Do ur bf/gf mind if you still keep in contact with your ex?

last SG · 2007-07-04T09:59:52+00:00

my girl just left me for her ex.. couldn't get over him after a yr.. now he wans her back n they r both happily together... me... still depressed n probably...

*bluee SG

Been troubled by this friendship thingy for some time...

Can ex be friends again?

I think it should be ok, but some think otherwise....

But i had made a decision to give up 'that old friend' bcos i dun wan to see my bf feel so hurt due to such friendship. He has had showered me with his utmost love and tenderness... it will be the most self-centered thing to do if i still keep that old friend... i cant just sit there and do nothing and see him feel upset.

Do u agree?

zeny SG

do you mind if your bf still chats with his ex?

Gackt247 SG

it’s like so duh.. of course la..

zeny SG

i perfer for the TS to anser herself.
Thanks

eagle SG

my gf’s ex was and is my friend from sec 1 till j2

darkhour SG

for me its ok la...my gf has quite a few ex who she still keeps in touch with but i dun mind la coz she constantly reassures me that im the onli one she loves loh...i believe normally those who mind r those who do not haf that much confidence bah...

if ur willing to give that fren of urs for this r/s to do better then its ur sacrifice for the r/s...in a way its a way of reassuring ur bf but make sure its no more contact next time, or else it might cause more misunderstandings...this is if ur bf is reali affected by it bah...

if not, u can actuali try to explain that u guys r purely juz frens n mean it...dun even tink of going back with him coz it will b unfair for ur bf...

but if ur very close to that fren of urs, n ur bf insists on u 2 not havin any contact, i feel that its ur bf's fault...he doesnt haf the right to make u break contact with ur frens...if its ur own decision, then ur kinda doin ur fren wrong coz he din do anything wrong to deserver that...but if u reali had to choose one between the two...if its that serious that is...then i guess what u did is ok...

de_middle SG

i don't even know where my ex has gone to Laughing

ispyyy SG

Different people different views...

Since yr bf seems to dislike it, spare a thought for him...

storywolf SG

"ex" is call ex because it is over already... If it is over then why still hang on .... move on.

dreamykite SG

i dont think so. when you begin to be unhappy with the present bf/gf, you will then turn to ur ex who will shower u with love.

At the end of it, u will confuse yourself whom u shld love.

BadzMaro SG

All my Ex's are my good friends. Razz

but all my Gf's dont like my ex's.

They tend to compare. N i get frustrated. especially when they say my ex prettier la.. fairer , hotter... all that crap. yes they are pretty, hot , fair whatever...but, i chose you now didnt i ? Rolling Eyes

I dont mind my gf got some contact with her ex , if she doesnt really make a big fuss about it , i dont see why i shouldn't allow her to be in some minor contact with her ex.

sgFish SG

wa that means you kope la Shocked

rainee SG

Last time I used to be jealous and irritated the moment my dear mentioned his ex crush or said that he talked to her...

But now after thousands of reassurances and all his actions seem to show that he and the girl are nothing but just close friends, I have learnt to take it easy and give him more freedom to mingle with his friends. It is kinda unfair to force him to get rid of a friend just because I am being overly possessive and unreasonable.

I think it would help if you talk to your bf about her, reassure him no matter how many times that you are really true to him and you are just friends and nothing more with your ex. And put your words into action, show your bf that he can always count on you and trust you. Sooner or later he will not even bring up this issue anymore.

It is just an issue of insecurities on his part I guess...

seotiblizzard SG

its ok.
i dun mind.
Ex gf/bf means cannot be friends?

icyboiz SG

i mind , im a guy.

u all can say wad u all want la.. but when u are in that person shoes u will be sayin different things not saying everyone though. last time b4 i get into a relationship i oso sae i can one , everything oso can. when get into relationship liao den u will feel the agony.

dcx SG

Yes.
(I mind.)

darkhour SG

jealous is will abit la...but still muz trust her mah...for me ill let her go on one...its ok as long as she knws the limits loh=p btw...i m currently in a r/s Mr. Green

dreamykite SG

for me, i ll let bygones be bygones. better dont see him anymore bcos
Embarassed

*bluee SG

In actual fact, i dun mind if he contact with his ex... as long as my bf give me assurrance that it is a past r/s and no more feelings involved, i believed and trust him... i marked his words...

it all depends on how much the trust between the 2..... and how much u udstand each other...

Is ur current partner easily seduced? or should i ask, guys get seduced easier and got less stand point?

dreamykite SG

i prefer guy having clean cut with his ex. more stable and trustworthy. i dont like sharing him with other woman Sad Sad

not clean cut seems an indecisive person