How do i approach this girl who also seems to like me?

last SG · 2007-08-02T15:56:11+00:00

You're actually intimidated by her friends?

_Aaron_ SG

Yup, sit close to her, then try to get her name.

Once you get her name, it'll be easier.
You can always do stuff like:-
1) Hey Ann, the lecturer wanted me to tell you something, can you come over for a minute?
2) Hey Ann, James wanted me to pass you something...
3) Ann, come quick! I Got something for you!

or you can just get yr friend to be the 'wingman', and ask him to distract other girls while you get her attention and talk.

Many methods, but depends on which one you want to use~

TheGoodEarth SG

Bring a cat or dog along. She might fall in love with the kitty or puppy, then the rest is up to you.

dumbdumb! SG

oh man, i feel you, bro.

hmm slip her a note when u help pick up her stuff next time?

ur name and hp number

the_fallen SG

it's more impt that you concentrate on your studies..

you don't actually need to approach this girl...

since she's shy (what i feel after reading your post), to save her from being embarrassed in from of her frens, and to prevent her from rejecting u (just in case) perhaps u can try writing her a letter and pass it to her...

just ask her out for lunch perhaps after school one of these days...

inculde ur contact particulars inside..

digicharat SG

isnt it normal politeness to smile back when people smile at you?
or is it different for the younger generation now?

Xtrider SG

wa lao...u mentioned tt u helped picked some stuff she dropped and said hi liao...shld have spokken more than juz hi lor...

noe her cca? perhaps can try tt...and try to get her msn asap...easier to chat online..

FBI SG

find ways to know her?

like ask your friends if any of em know her..

better hurry if not she get attached..

derekcsy SG

I know that this is a VERY LONG post, but I hope that you (Bonta-Kun) will take time and read it... Very Happy

It may just be pure infatuation in this case...
My suggestion is also not to think too much about it... try to keep this matter at the back of your head and get to know her better as a friend...

From your earlier post, I can tell that you are a Junior College student... Your studies are important. Do not let this issue cause too much distraction to your studies. Get to know her in person, maybe you can kindly ask her for her MSN contact and talk to her online whenever you are free. Engage in healthy conversations with her; and maybe if she needs help or if you need help in certain subjects, you can request to help her out after school/request if she is able to solve some of the questions regarding the subject... (my point is to make your conversation related to schoolwork - try not to talk too much about it and eventually bore her.) You can also suggest recommending and exchanging songs via MSN Messenger that can beat stress... Since you are still studying, I don't quite recommend you to appear on MSN online for an entire day just to wait for her, alternative methods like emailing her on days when she is not online and when you are free to do so is a good method of keeping in contact with her... then wait for her reply soon. You can check the inbox everyday, but keep it short (10 to 20 mins) and get back to your work.

That's quite a good start! Now, let's not go too far into thinking that you two will be lovers just yet but my advise for you is: aim to strike a friendship with her first, get to know her better...
Keep those thoughts of being her boyfriend and potential husband aside first, these thoughts will usually hinder you from knowing her better... even before you step in front of her, you will surely back off because you are shy... Keep the thoughts and feelings at the back of your mind... You can approach her and get to know her name, which class she comes from, her email address and tell her that your intent for doing so is plainly to be her friend. I know that you want to be someone closer to her than just being her friend, but remember that for a succesful relationship to be birthed forth is the careful and steady development between the two from being just friends to closer friends, best friends to lovers... you have to be her friend first in order for it to start! It is quite a good start to do something good for her, now build up the relationship with her starting from just being friends...

Try to approach her one of these days at her most convenient and accessible time in school, do not ask someone to get her contact info on behalf of you - that's not being very sincere. Try to accomplish this first task by yourself, you can choose to approach her when she is either alone or with a smaller group of friends. You may ask any other guy in her class for the timetable, so that you know her schedule in school and plan your approach...

My opinion about you sitting beside her may not be a good idea. You may start to feel jittery or very out-of-place sitting beside her... By then, she might have already sensed that you have feelings for her or feel strange about you... Get hold of her email address and message her online or email her if you feel shy talking face to face with her. Don't ask for her handphone number just yet! Until you think you are ready to do so, after a few conversations ou have with her online...
Girls are sensitive creatures, their emotions and feelings are the first to be affected by every sentence spoken to them... Do not go up to her and make a scene like what Xephone_xenon has mentioned, it will surely embarrase her and cause her to hate you forever; or it will probably give her a totally wrong impression of who you really are.
Be sensitive to what you say and do to her... Smile

Erm... do not follow this "script". Just do whatever seems right and appropriate for you to do at the certain time and place. This mini-conversation seems very awkward, you are making her do something that inconveniences her... please do not follow! Sorry keekx! Craft a better story for our dear brother to follow next time! Girls these days will not waste their time doing something pretty useless like such, I think she will reject your request in the above situation.

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Before I end my post, I wish you the best of luck getting her email address and getting to know her better! Feel free to message me at my Mailbox anytime you require my help... Please do not let this junction of your life affect you too much, continue to work hard in your exams no matter what happens and get into a University after your years in JC. Most girls would prefer to go with smart guys. All the best for your studies, Bonta-Kun, see you soon bro! Give her a good impression of yourself and be her friend! Wink

Xephone_xenon SG

Where got!?

If you tell a girl like that she must be thinking.
"Wha lao, so bhb one. Knn"

constancebay SG

Put some sleeping pills into a cup of coke.

Give her the coke to drink. Say that you are treating her.

Than when she is sleeping, rape her.

When she become pregnant she will have to marry you

jinggominak SG

Try to become the center of their conversation then try to stick with their activity after that is you’ll found you’re talking with her..

ErikaChioBu SG

couldn`t stop laughing after reading this post

SingaporeMacross SG

Go take a walk on the street. How many people bother to smile back at you if you smile at them? They'll probably think you are nuts or a perv.

dbowie SG

The question here is which sense of yours (1,2,3,4,5 or maybe 6) senses that she have a liking to you ?

TzX-b SG

its normal la, or in poly atleast, ppl just smile bcos polite. but if u really wana hit on that gal. than approach . just go. even if she i group, just go ask can i talk to u for awhile?. lidat =X

kramnave SG

What i used to do is to pass short written notes in lectures. Something like "xiao mei mei, you mei you wan guo gu gu" lol, joking. What you can try to do is to start these in-lectures conversations through notes without talking, which can hide your nerves. You don't have to pass it directly to her. Can pass it indirectly through a series of classmates. Just pray that your classmates are mature enough not to open your note and start laughing at you. When the note reaches the gal. Make sure to smile confidently at her.

You can do this for a while and get her msn etc. Start chatting with her online ask her out for dates or something. Continue your notes in class, then when possible talk to her when she is nearby.

maxtor SG

Kun,

would u believe me if i told u that the reason u r attracted to her is cos' she's attracted to u? It's very difficult to explain but that's probably the case.

Anyway, go up and say hi la. What will u lose if u approach her and say hi? Ur flesh wont kena cut off ma.. believe me, she will respect u alot more if u dare to do it. the longer u wait, the less chance u have.

Say u r rejected outright by her. Her friends laugh at u. Ur friends laugh at u. So what? Does that make u any lesser? NO!!! in fact, ur frens would probably respect what u did. Give them the same situation and u think they'd dare to do the same thing?

whether u approach her anot will say alot about u as a person. It will also communicate to her what kind of person u r. Whether or not u r worth her time. Don't expect her to approach u. In fact, BE VERY WARY IF SHE DOES !!!!

Just do it mate. good luck Wink

Ms Poh SG

Ask other poly friends who may know her to introduce her and her group of friends, be friends first. Develop friendship to get to know one another more. You are still in your teens, can take your time because you have it. Develop the relationship. Feelings have to be nurtured.

ichi87 SG

if i were u and i know her name… i will buy another set of notes for the next lecture… den write her name on it… den pass it to her… telling her that she has left her note at somewhere.. but leave a stickit note inside.. so that she knows ur name and number..

digicharat SG

if you are talking about strangers on the street who you saw for the first time, then yes.
but they are classmate. so it should be a normal reaction to smile back right?
or now the younger generation so busy and dao that cant even return a smile back to their classmates or colleagues?

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