Originally posted by Yunhaier:
In this lifetime, if we can name 5 true friends, I
think that's already very good.
Some people can't even name one.
Our journey in life is to seek out those true friends.
Most of the people we encounter do not belong to this category;
they are more likely to be transitory in nature, appearing like
glorious sunrise and vanished as quickly like sunset.
[b]Your source of
suffering isn't due to the natural shift of cycle in human
relationship, but lies in your perception of
possession. Your need to cling and hold onto status
quo generated much unhappiness from within because you are unable
to embrace the fact that nothing in life is absolute and the only
constant thing in life is changes itself.
It's only human to feel depress when our friendship with someone,
whom we deemed important, degenerates. But on the other hand, it
probably means that they might not be the people who will walk
through your life as true friends at the end of the road.
You can't coerce someone to be your true friend if this person
simply isn't.
Why force a wrong key into the keyhole? The key will just crack
inside as you turn it. 
Cheers [/b]
yeah, i get what you mean. i will move on 
