Originally posted by Yunhaier:
You might think that the chasm in education is the
de facto reason contributing to the degeneration of this
relationship - eventually you might just realized that any reasons
would take on similar conclusion, for as long as the person desire
to leave.
Any reason will do.
Your 'happy relationship' is probably one-sided - it might be
sparking joy for you to just being around with someone you love,
but certainly, it isn't very much the same for her.
It isn't enough and that insufficiency topples the balance.
She might be contented previously, but with desire comes
disappointment. I recalled talking to someone who felt afraid of
her 'new self' - albeit she began to enjoy financial independence
and powers; she realized that her expectation of her mate also grew
proportionately.
She felt she is no longer the same as before, being conformed and
shaped by societal norms. Perhaps the rudimentary womanly instinct
of 'survival' triggers - as the need to 'select' the best possible
mate to 'ensure the best possible condition to breed the next
generation'.
In introspection, when we try to uncover the common factor/s
attributed to the construction of our relationship; when all is
crystal-clear in naked eyes of wisdom, we might just realize that
time could just be that one solo component, breathing life into an
otherwise impossible relationship just because all other elements
are conducive enough to elicit a relationship.
What I am trying to say here is that all relationships are created
by gift of time, circumstances and situation (whether or not it is
karmic). And with the change in time, circumstances and situation -
when all components in this equation changes, things might not be
the same anymore, even though both of you still looked the same,
leading the same relationship.
[b]True love is when your
core doesnt waver, despite all that beguiling distraction that
invoke outwardly from all changes in life.
Your woman swayed and got affected by this notion, as this effect
plants seed of doubts in your relationship, questioning its
original identity and reason of existence. Perhaps that might just
be the source of fatigue she is trying to endure - the ubiquitous
expectation of what should be a 'perfect/standard
relationship'.
Why question it only now? Or is it because what doesn't seem to
matter in the past matters right now?
Is it really education? (Or the other side of the story we haven't
heard)
Or has Love weakened? (Or the other side of the story we haven't
heard)
Sit together and talk it out - you might still be able to do
something if this frustration stem from your apathy and passiveness
in love and life. But if she has decided that the fire has burned
itself out, with the final chance to 'amend anything' forfeited,
then you probably need divine intervention.
P.S: All is equal in eyes of love. However, when this paradigm
shifts drastically, one usually only obtain companionship, not soul
mates. So what if it's five years? The length of relationship often
speaks nothing of the love that's truly within.
You might not have to reconsider this relationship - but surely,
you must preview your definition of love and see if it's parallel
to hers.
Love is about looking at one common direction... not just at each
other. 
Cheers [/b]
thanks, i think of all you would come closest to what is
happening
