Originally posted by royale9:
The fear of rejection is one of the major reasons for
failure and underachievement in adult life. It is fear that robs us
of happiness. It is fear that causes us to settle for far less than
we are capable of. It is fear that is the root cause of negative
emotions, unhappiness and problems in human relationship.
[b]The only good thing about fear is that it is learned, and
because of this, it can be unlearned.
The fear of failure and the fear of rejection are
learned responses, programmed into you when you were young. These
fears usually set the upper and lower limits of your comfort zone.
Because of them, you do enough not to be criticized or rejected on
the low side, and you stay well within your limits so you can avoid
risk or failure on the high side. Once you slipped into your
comfort zone, you stay there, attempting to avoid any feeling of
fear or anxiety.
Your fears hold you back from most of what is possible for
you.
The opposite of fear is love, starting with
self-love or self esteem. There is an inverse or opposite
relationship between self-esteem and fears of all kinds.
The more you like yourself, the less you fear failure and
rejection.
The more you like yourself, the more willing you are to reach out
and take the risks that will lead you to success and
happiness.
The more you like yourself, the more willing you are to take the
actions that propel you out of your comfort zone and toward the
achievement of your real desires.
Liking yourself is very healthy. In fact, it is the key to the
personal effectiveness and to happy relationships with others. The
more you like and respect yourself, the better you perform in
everything you do. You are more relaxed and positive. You are more
confident about your abilities. You make fewer mistakes. You have
more energy and you are more creative.
Some people have been taught to believe that liking yourself is the
same as being conceited or obnoxious. But excalty the opposite is
true. Both the "superiority complex", behaving in an arrogant or
conceited way, and the "inferiority complex", behaving in a
self-deprecating way, are manifestation of low self-esteem, of not
liking oneself very much at all.
People with geniue self-esteem get along easily and well with just
about anyone.
Remember,
Your self-esteem is largely determined by how lovable and valuable
you appear in your own thinking..
Perhaps the biggest mental roadblocks that you will ever have to
overcome are those contained in your self-limiting beliefs. They
hold you back by stopping you from even trying. They often cause
you to see things that are not true.
As Henry Ford said,
"If you believe that you can do a
thing, or if you believe you cannot, in either cases, you are
right."
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wow....u type this all out or quote from somewhere? That's
really pro...
Hope Huy is feeling better now ^^
