long story..comments appreciated

last SG · 2007-07-06T11:38:45+00:00

The problem lies with you and I'm glad that you know. 1. You lacked of self-confidence which is very important. Please be more confident next time round, a...

d0ug SG

i get what you mean..but..

sigh..

Detached SG

Let me share with you another story.

Check PM.

AndrewPKYap SG

painful right? *pat pat* so you noe... if a ger likes you she will oso same you and feel pain, if not, she won't feel any pain breaking up with you one...

Then there is another type of ger... she told me: "I break up, I drink beer and get drunk for one night... and the next day I am OK"

d0ug SG

what i know is..she took quite long to make this decision..and cried over it several times..but i didnt know it at that time cause we agreed to give each other some time to think of what we did and our mistakes and change them..i never knew that breaking up was the thing in her mind..

AndrewPKYap SG

huh? "cried over it several times"?????? I think by now she got over it (the pain) and scared sh!tless about going through the same thing with you liaoz... sounds more and more hopeless....

Just take rainee's je je's advice bah....

MiX Metal SG

Give her time and space to think it through, Don't rush her into making a decision if you do that it might be as you've not change at all and she may think that all those that you've written is jus something that you do to get her back and you don't mean really mean any of it.

d0ug SG

understood..i guess thats the most i can do now..

MiX Metal SG

*pat on shoulders*

Hey cheer up ! your not the first to make this kind of mistake and you'll certainlly not be the last. Good thing is you've realize your mistakes and change your ways

Take everything one step at a time.

ordinaryguy32 SG

d0ug,

Take this as a valuable lesson.
If any of your older relatives tells you that you are too young to be in a relationship, this is the reason why.

The good news is you are a sincere guy, and that attribute should put you in good stead with future BGR.

Don't pester her anymore. We have to learn to accept defeat graciously, in order to taste success next time..

Study hard, and continue to be a good person!

aljudvin SG

Dont give up. i face the same problem as you only last week. just give her more freedom and don everytime call her and sms. maybe every 2 days call her 1 time. let her miss u.

aljudvin SG

when she online msn don tok soooooo much to her can liao. just say hello or watever. try not to more than 10 sentences.

d0ug SG

thanks for the advices.. i know i’m gonna leave her alone for now.. shes a girl who needs alot of timeeeee

ispyyy SG

u r overloading her with stress rather than letting her feel comfortable which u do in the start...
Anyway, there are many other things to achieve besides love. U should try to divert yr attention to many interest rather than focus all yr attention into one...
Keep yrself moving... Since both of u r young, u will have yr chance but not in the near future(probably after NS)... And since it is not in the near future, dont think abt it... muahaaahaa.... worry abt yr national service first ><

smudgey SG

this saying stands true.

If you Love her, you will let her go.

If she decides to stay with you, she is yours. if not, she was lost long before...

jackdaniels SG

See maybe this is the point. As people get older, they contemplate too heavily over relationships.

Everyone got it right during the teenage years. People in love should just kiss a lot and not fret over things. Razz

dokono SG

yes people over-analyse too much.

doko

yiha093 SG

x2... nva the same again... Confused

AndrewPKYap SG

everything is changing ALL the time...

aljudvin SG

depends... Wink Wink Wink

binarynwitz SG

Your story reminded me of my own.

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As people grow older, we start changing - things that once was, no longer seemed to be.

It is your lack of confidence which leads you into over-possessiveness. And that is what drove the relationship into its current wreckage.

Are you sure this will not happen again?

Your over-possessiveness and pettiness (mention of guys in her blog), suggested that you do not really trust her.

Are you capable of this trust, if you two do patch up?

Remember; the two parties in a relationship should be frank to each other. If you do not have the money to get roses, be frank. And then fold her some paper roses.

It is not the thing that counts. It is the thoughts.

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