Fat & Ugly, out of the game?

last SG · 2007-07-08T02:31:15+00:00

Just be yourself and don’t worry about things. Unless you are a person that worries…then don’t be yourself. Be someone that doesn’t worry. Anyways, if people...

baby_oreo SG

i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one. Sad
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.

anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.

lageihsif SG

not true.

but i suggest u go and start a conv first?

ask about hmwk or something.

of course if ur scared of the ugly freak ting...

u can always ask a guy who u think isnt that mean.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Knowledge is like a Magnet.

Even though me not good looking ar, but I have the knowledge. So during exam period, people will come to me and ask me to teach them and give them extra remedials.

Looks are not everything in life, you know? Smile

WiNtEr'SkiLL SG

yea looks are not everything.. a kind heart is what matters

yasusenpai SG

Wow, reminded me of the times when I was in sec school, being a nerd type look, I wasn't popular among the girls even though I treated them very well such as remembering their birthdays every year, giving them presents, lending comics or making things for them or helping out in homework or what.

I don't demand them to like me or even love me lah, just want to have photos taken with them and have them to write in my autograph book when graduation coming... But you know what? Most of them pretend to be busy and don't want to take photos with me together. But when some handsome guys ask them, suddenly all very free or what.

This saddens me a lot then I never contact these girls again.

baby_oreo SG

=(

I happen to be not that good in studies as compared to ppl in class.
wish i could be good in studies.
i believe if i were more knowledgeable, situation wont be that bad.
although once in a little while, some would ask me questions, but most of the time, i still feel left out. Sad

gigabyte14 SG

you are what you think

if you think you're ugly, you're ugly.

if you think you're pretty, you're pretty

if you think you're ugly, then do something about it, no sense whining

get a new 'do, makeup and such.

it takes effort to make yourself look better.

you can also take up a course to learn about grooming.

good luck.

vice_edge SG

i dun hab convincing look and voice. so i cannot be a salesman confirm. cos i got no temper .. haha reallii .. most ppl will stick will ppl who can speak logic stuff like " no la, its actualli like tat ..... so ya like tat " ... though they not that smart Confused

baby_oreo SG

Originally posted by yasusenpai:

Wow, reminded me of the times when I was in sec school, being a nerd type look, I wasn't popular among the girls even though I treated them very well [b]such as remembering their birthdays every year, giving them presents, lending comics or making things for them or helping out in homework or what.

I don't demand them to like me or even love me lah, just want to have photos taken with them and have them to write in my autograph book when graduation coming... But you know what? Most of them pretend to be busy and don't want to take photos with me together. But when some handsome guys ask them, suddenly all very free or what.

This saddens me a lot then I never contact these girls again.[/b]

these girls are really bad luh.
i dont think you should be treated like this.

Cool-gal SG

come on, im sure u have ur talent somewhere else.
mmmm, if u have a happy n cheerful personality, im sure they will talk with u more?
b4 u assume anything, why dun u work on ur interacting skill?
maybe they tot u dun like to socialize n is a quiet person??

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Actually I also have experience this when I am Sec 3. Almost all my classmates are ginawannables. I stayed away from them and become solo. It's from that time my results starts to become better even get serveral awards from the school.

Then I took up the role as a teacher to teach my friends during the holidays. It's at that time the situation with my classmates starts to improve.

hmm~ If you have any homework problems, you can post at the Homework Forum.

darkhour SG

no one shld b treated like that la...aiyaz its practicality one la...some more u is in what lvl?normally happens when at lower lvls of education la...

Cool-gal SG

mmmm, u should be glad tat they were ur classmates, not ur frenz.
dun worry, im sure they will get rejected once somehow along the way..
karma & retribution.

darkhour SG

eh but dun u tink ur frens abit like...using u coz u smart nia...

Xtrider SG

why your class so few gals? jc ah? maybe u should try to be more friendly, open and interactive? pretty soon they will talk to u especially if u are more on lor.. i noe gals like tt and they are very on ppl..

Darkness_hacker99 SG

hahaz. you sounded like one of my close friend who said the exact same thing.

I am going to give you the exact same answer I replied him..

I told him, "It's my passion to teach and benefit others. When I teach they'll learn and I also re-learnt." Smile

ispyyy SG

Fat & Ugly does not mean yr appearance no good...

To tell u the truth sometimes I find girls that are Fat & Ugly attractive... They are only attractive when they r their true self and when they show lack of confidence, not attractive anymore liao...

Example :
When a lack of confident girl is concentrating on her work, she display her natural beauty. It makes a guy want to have a second look at her. But when the girl go to check her face in mirror, no matter how the girl look it just look sucks...

In fact, for a chio bu, I dont even throw a second look at her but for those natural beauty, I just cant resist to have a second look... Natural beauty is at tat instant minute but chio bu can see anytime u want...

I bet u have the same point of views when u looking at guys ,rite??? ><

So, try not to think so much ... be yrself... The more uncomfortable u feel, the more guys wont approach u...

Keep telling yrself this :
" Every1 have a beauty in them and I believe I also have it in me... "
Haha.... tat is what I always tell myself... Coz, I m also fat and ugly too ><

Cool-gal SG

one noble man found in sgforum!!
Shocked

baby_oreo SG

hmm, yep, j1 this year.
thanks for all advices, will try to be more interactive. (:
but sometimes i got try, just that i will feel the ppl not willing to talk to me. maybe i should change my mindset.

by the way, darkness hacker, you are one kind soul.
so passionate about teaching. (:
thanks ppl for all the advices and words of encouragement! (:

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Smile There are alot of them in sgF.

Mayi jie is one of them. Her contribution to sgF in helping people with IT problems. Smile