Should i give up

last SG · 2007-07-10T08:37:14+00:00

it's ok to be sad... but don't wallow! i see quite a few ppl slipping into depression these days.... it's a slippery slope....

Uncertain SG

I have posted a thread about my date with my ex female colleague before...

Ok, i will get to the point. I confess to this friend of mine whom didn't quite rejected me. She said she wants to be my friend first, try to know each other deeper before we embarked anywhere further. However, things changed after that. I message her, she didn't reply and i have to ask her on msn, then she just reply with a few words. I tried to know her better by organising outing but she said her days are filled, no time for me. Now, the problem is i try to know her better but she doesn't give me the chance. By far, i only send 2 sms and an email to her, so i dun think i pester her in anyway. So does it means that she doesn't intend to give me any chance to be her other half? Question

rebound SG

cause she dunno how 2 say this to u
"i dun like u."
so wat she do it ignore u.
so yes she dun want to give u chance.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

If I were you, I wouldn’t confess so soon.

Cool-gal SG

mmmm, dun noe shd ask u give up anot.
coz it seems like she dun reli take the interest in u.
but sometimes i believe, persistant can make one succeed.
all the best.

rebound SG

ya like fairly tale rite Laughing

Uncertain SG

Thanks for the enlightenment. Perhaps i should just leave her alone, thanks ya. I have accepted the cold hard truth. Wink

dokono SG

This is a rejection line.

"I don't think Im ready for a relationship."

"I like you but as a friend only."

"I think someone else is better than me."

and more...

After hearing these rejection lines you should know by default they are rejection lines. What's more she is trying to avoid you. Heck, Ive even used some of them on girls before so I know their underlying meaning.

doko

Uncertain SG

Thanks doko, actually i know some of these rejection lines. But then she said a thing that sort of give me some hope. The phrase is as follows:" maybe we should get to know each other better?" Don't know she meant it a not. Actually, i did ask her to meet up with me for 5 min and she agrees. But before i ask this, i ask her out for a bball session and she rejected me cos she have a very busy week with her friend.

viciouskitty74 SG

bball session?

to do what?

Uncertain SG

bball session = basketball session

i am a basketball enthusiast and she likes to play basketball...

de_middle SG

actually there is no time line for such things, honestly......u just take the gamble.

TS, if i were u......just take it as a rejection & not try further. but you may do otherwise if you believe in persistency, not that it will fail.

If your trying again.....good luck Wink

if your not trying.......good luck too on meeting a better one soon Wink

Aaron8209 SG

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dokono SG

Why did you ask her to meet you for 5 mins? After that, you are rejected again? Come on bro, she's not worth your time any more.

Take note she has rejected you so many times before so it doesn't mean anything even if she says she wants to know you better. Think about it: if she really wants to get to know you better, why is she rejecting all your invitations, smses and emails?

What I suggest is don't waste your time hanging around on a girl whose heart is not with you. Spare yourself the torture.

doko

Uncertain SG

ya doko,

i have noted what u said. Thanks really.

dokono SG

I am glad to help.

Remember, don't waste your time talking to her. I have a feeling she has someone else in mind already.

doko

Uncertain SG

Well i think i will only talk to her if she initiated. Won't invest my time from now on as advised by u.

ceciltan SG

Just dun contact her for a few days or so, some gal like to play hard to get, once they realise that you might be gone, she might come knocking. and if she dun come knocking, you would know by then that she does not have the hot for you..

We guy should not appear too desperate sometime, it like a rubber band, you pull sometime, you let go sometime.

popikachu SG

Good thing that you are brave enough to accept the truth.

Uncertain SG

Actually i am sort of expecting it. Brave enough to accept the truth??... well gotta rejected lots of time... immune liao... Wink

browniebaobao SG

she's not interested in you.