Should I gave up?

last SG · 2007-07-05T11:21:27+00:00

Indeed, we guys must try... and yes, i agree that a strong foundation is very important indeed. But while we guys complain about the lack of decent good gir...

Guardx SG

Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..

Omniknight SG

why do you want another gal quickly?

bo liao SG

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Originally posted by Guardx:
Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
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This is a very good question for Guardx^^

AndrewPKYap SG

You need to get a life, like she is getting a life, and stop thinking negative thoughts like "I am a dog"

Why can't it be "I am a very considerate and tolerant BF?"

Why can't it be "I am so lucky to have a GF like that, it gives me time to spend time with my own friends?"

You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG Shocked

Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people....

countdracula SG

being single is far better than being attached miserably….you are too needy, why do you need a gf in the first place if you cannot be happy with one….....

relax_crown SG

yea, must be happy about yr gf earn good money.... and u can spend more time with yr family and friends. he also mention he isn't so handsome... yea he got a gf tt is like businesswoman Razz

^mR.yellow^86 SG

Again how old are you? XD (Yunhaier asked us to state our age group, rite? Embarassed )
oh ya, few questions to be answered by yourself

1. Do you love her?
2. Are you happy with this relationship with her?
3. If you are Godly handsome, Mr. Universerve and Popular, would you leave her for someone better and prettier?

If .your answer to ques no.2 is not really, and no.3 is Yes, it's time to reconsider the whole relationship.

dokono SG

When did she start to do this? Since 2 years ago? Or is it her character to have fun with friends?

What are you working as? Have you been trying hard to increase your income?

She's right. You can't force her to not go clubbing and enjoy with her friends. After all, it's her life not yours. She's not your pet.

Always listen to her and follow like a dog? Are you the man ? I think you spoiled her from the beginning, that's why she doesn't care what you think because she lost the respect for you. Think about it. You treat her too well? Does she deserve all the pampering?

doko

xiao_tou SG

i think so too... mayb because of u pamper her too much in the first place tats y she's behaving like tis now...

boka SG

Too wilful,immature and does not understand what a relationship requires.
I can see where your coming from considering u said that u felt like a dog,must have been a hit to your self esteem.
I suggest u call it quits.
Doesn't matter wheather u are handsome or not,charecter counts because who can hold on to mother youth forever?

browniebaobao SG

it's ur ego. u dun feel good earning lesser than her.

u can advise her not to go chioning so often, but u cannot restrict her.

go lor, go chase someone who earns lesser than u and xiao niao yi ren de lor. keke.

FBI SG

so u meaning u are a dog and she is the owner

SGpork SG

yes u should..

Rolling Eyes

Guardx SG

After putting so much effort on one gal, you feel that is not worth the effort.
Really envy my friends who play the field.
Only they can hurt people and not be hurt by others.

Guardx SG

Thats what my friends told me, I thought could settle down with her but seems like she still do not want to.

Guardx SG

Age: just reach 30.

1) Yes but seems to fade with her actions

2) Used to but now.............

3) If I am that good I will not even look at her at all. No point lieing about the fact, I faced the truth. Is not easy being a average guy.

AndrewPKYap SG

I still stand by my earlier opinion:

"You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG Shocked

Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people...."

Karma bah....

Guardx SG

She started from young, we promise each other that we will stop all this and start a better life, but sadly she did not keep her side of it.

Agree she is not my pet, I seems to be hers. looking back I feel like I am so dumb doing so much things for her.

I am a man no worries about it. I am what you call the good type where one loves and takes good care of my gf no matter what others says.
Agree I spoiled her, I treated her too well and she totally do not deserve any pampering at all.

Guardx SG

Whats ego got to do with this ?
I may earn lesser than her but I pay more for her items, shopping,food, wants almost everything. In fact looking back I am proud that I was able to do it.

I did advise her but she refuse to listern. We promise each other but seems that I am the only one who still keeps to it.

Guess you are right no point in putting so much effort in someone when she does not care about your feelings.

Guardx SG

Would you like your gf to be dancing with different strangers everytime she chiong?

What is so Karama about not wanting to see her like that?

If I do not love her, she could sleep with anyone, why should I care?
I love her very much thats why it hurts to see her do it, the worst thing is that
she does it knowing that I do not like it.

What's the point, I guess is time to let go.