[quote]Originally posted by coldzero:
I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However,
she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep
getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse,
she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I
look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will
not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that
type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still
together..
She hardly uses the 'love' word
on you anymore. Did she use it often when you were courting her?
How long was the courtship?
Might be close friends in the future, but will not be together to
start a family?? That is pretty hurtful. This shows a lack of faith
in the relationship, a serious lack of faith.
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as
well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been
like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why
do you like to put our relationship on the line so
much?
You said (later on)you treated
her like a goddess. While its thought that most people would like
to be treated like kings or queens, relationships fail very easily
is one side is put on a pedestal and 'worshiped'. Things usually
start to be one-sided from there.
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart.
But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her.
Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I
have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
There's a very big problem. How
do you want to solve it? Subtly by yourself? Or put it out in the
open and analyze it together with her? The only way to know if you
have been demoted is to ask.
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day
trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during
her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I
dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was
fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
Does she have mood swings very
often? Or does it manifest itself only when you're together with
her? Or when the relationship started? If its the latter, then the
relationship is affecting her in ways that you don't know. You need
to ask And know what's wrong.
And please don't worship your girlfriend. Or anyone other than God.
It doesn't work that way. Treat them too nice and they'll either
walk away or run, or take more and more and run later.
Cheers man, may your relationship problem end soon~
Aaron
