How do I court someone older?

A.I SG

Hi. I have like this guy who is older than me for more than 4 years. Though I recently confessed to him, but he did not reject me totally only to say that I'm young to him.

So, can anyone give me some good advice as to how can I court him?

missqi SG

asgm.
Laughing

Xephone_xenon SG

Hmm. Okay la i tell you the brutal truth.
He does not like you la, so he just put it in a nicer way saying you are too young.
If he truly likes you, 4years younger is not a problem at all.
So ya, just move on.
Dont like means dont like, no solution to this.

A.I SG

so how can I move on? any advices or ways that I can do?

Actually, I tried getting myself busy with work and stuff. But, due to the fact that I have to get in contact with him from time to time, it makes things hard too. Though i have friends who advise me to stop my connections with him, but that would also mean I am killing a way of my financial income as he frequently introduces business contacts to me.

so what should i do?

Xephone_xenon SG

You can continue to contact and talk to him.
But just forget on courting him, and continue with life la.
Then meanwhile you can wait for your next guy naturally.
Unless you really damm despo for him. Then i dunnoe liao.
Only you can help yourself lor.

<Precious> SG

Seduce him lor! Ying xiong nan guo mei ren guan...... unless u r not mei ren lor! Laughing

FocusPoint SG

Act so cheap for what? Throw yourself at the man. Have some pridelah. If he already said out loud no interest still want to stick like a leech not embarrass one meh? Back off lah. Rolling Eyes

Mind over matter be more professional at work. Treat him like everybody be nice and helpful still. Be confident not aggressive. Men hate aggressive women. Maybe someday he might really notice you then good loh. Maybe by the time he realize he like you and you already attach too bad for him. Life is like that mah.

yuko-ogura SG

wad gd and attractive qualities do u see in the one u like? Smile

TinySue SG

Why can't you move on? It's not as if you two were ever an item, bf/gf. And why would you still want to court someone who has very clearly but gently break it to you that he is not interested in you? Just continue on with life and go out with friends. Don't keep arrowing in on every guy as a potential bf. When your fate comes to meet your other half it will come. Let things happen naturally. Just go on with your daily life and continue to talk to him. You may feel a bit awkward at the moment due to you professing your intention to him and got rejected but as time goes things will eventually go back to normal.

gigabyte14 SG

1st, ask yourself

how did you get attracted to him?

will you be happy with him

jondizzle foshizzle SG

Offer him sex. No guy would ever turn that down. I know a lot of chicks in my school who’s been with a lot of uninterested older guys just becoz they’re sluts. But then again u wouldn’t really have a very deep relationship but it’s your call.

browniebaobao SG

wah u taking the initiative ar?

that man so good meh? how old? married or not?

actually to woo a man, juz need to seduce, and be v nice to him.

but what for? girl should have jin chi mah.

if he dun like u, then find someone else lor..

it's not good to mix up ur work and personal life leh.

yuko-ogura SG

dun think it'll work. Rolling Eyes

jondizzle foshizzle SG

wtf sgforums is retarded it censors 'slut'

TinySue SG

Whether a woman is beautiful or not it's irrelevant here. A woman should never offer herself to a guy just because she want to snare him. It's a stupid decision. The guy will not think highly of you.

At this moment TS just fancy him not in love. You don't fall in love with someone without knowing the person's character. What if she give herself to him and then realize he is not suitable for her?

798 SG

how old r u n how old is he now?

zeny SG

1) ask yourself why you like him.

2) Do you have any other targets?

A.I SG

Actually, when i first got to know him, he was nothing but hateful to me because he smokes and drinks and acts like a jerk at times. But then as time goes by, I get to know him, I'm attracted to the different, softer sides of him. That is when I discovered that I'm in love with him. Other than that, He is the first of all that makes me want to do weird stuff, settle down and have a family.

Sadly is, I do not have other targets at all. Though my friends are majority males, they are either married or only see me as a friend/buddy and not more than that.

As for age-wise, a bit not convenient to say.

A.I SG

One thing to note is that he and I are both single. The only thing is that he's been into quite a number of relationship whereas I'm still new to everything. Neutral

However, though he said that, he makes the relationship between the 2 of us to be so weird that it's undefined. Like you dunno whether u should define us as working partners, friends or just nobody to each other.

gigabyte14 SG

true