GUIDELINES IN
AUNT AGONY
I) Whenever possible, try not to post people's problem. If
possible, introduce them to SGF AA and get them to post instead.
Firstly, it's not very nice to post people's problems in a public
forum like this? And even if they allow it, I believe that they are
still the best person to relate their agony?
II) If possible, write more... describe more... and explain more
about your problem. Some people like to post their problem without
giving sufficient information or leaving certain critical
information out. It affects people's advice, because certain
critical information affects the entire perspective altogether. Of
course if there are things which you are not comfortable in
revealing, you can opt not to. Or better still, you could PM some
of the regulars, whom you can trust and speak to them.
III) You don't have to write very well, but here's two tips that
forumites in AA will be grateful for.
Tip 1
Please paragraph if you are writing an essay.
E.g:
this is embarrassing to say because i have never actually made
public in forums what i feel...i hope some of you can advise me
quite reasonably and sensibly to the following situation.I met this
guy through a girl friend of mine. I didn't feel anything towards
him at first sight because quite honestly he is not goodlooking but
pleasant enough. After he met me and we went out together(with
friends), he told my friend that he thought i was cute. My friend
is really good friends with him so she told me what he thought
about me. The thing is that the term "cute" is used very loosely
so....i don't know.. anyway, what happened next was he asked my
friend for my ICQ #. We chat occasionally but i realized that
recently he doesn't talk to me if i am online. Is he being shy? or
has lost interest? am i just being too paranoid about what he
thinks of me? Of course when i start a conversation with him he
always replies back but why doesn't he try to start a convo with me
first?
Tip 2
Do not attempt alternative caps writing style.
E.g:
PleAsE dO nOt wRitE likE tHat bEcAuSe It'S nOt OnlY dAmN bLoOdiE
IrRitAtIng, iT aCtUaLLy AffEcTs PeOplE's mOoD iN giViNg pRoPer
AdViCes. wOrSt wHen yOu CoMbiNe EsSay... ZeRo PaRaGrAphInG aNd
AltErNatE CaPs TYpInG... ChAnCEs arE, yOu aRe UsUaLly fLaMed uNtiL
yOu dO sOmeThIng aBouT iT.
IV) Aunt Agony do not encourage gender bashing. Although it's a
common sight in AA, like cats on the street - if possible keep it
minimal? Same goes for overly religious discussion?
V) Topics out of hand, multiple entries or completely irrelevant
are at high risk of being locked. If the topics is slightly off
(non-AA related)... it shouldn't be much of an issue (E.g. Mushy
Gang Chat topic) - although this is subjected to moderator's
discretion.
VI) Try not to hijack problem threads by posting another problem in
someone else's problem thread. Hijack by crapping is not encouraged
as well.
V) Aunt Agony ISN'T a replacement for professional counselling.
Should you experience crisis that requires professional attention,
please call any of the hotline available here.
VI) Every poster is ACCOUNTABLE for their own advice. Likewise,
every problem-seeker is ACCOUTABLE for whom they seek advice from.
Aunt Agony is NOT responsible, should any
mishap/misunderstanding/misdemeanour that arise from specific
advice/s dispense by individuals. Aunt Agony is merely an online
forum for people to air their problems. Aunt Agony is NOT
responsible for anything OUTSIDE the boundary of Sgforums - Aunt
Agony. Specific individual is responsible.
Outside the boundaries of Sgforums - Aunt Agony include (but not
limited to): chat program/s of any sort (MSN/Yahoo Messenger/etc),
contact numbers (Mobile/Office/Home/etc), emails/friendster/etc,
personal address or any meet up in reality. The decision to diverge
private information or to accept private meet-ups are solely based
on one's discretion. Aunt Agony CANNOT be held responsible for
anything outside it's own boundaries as stated above.
VII) To err is human - nobody is perfect. Aunt Agony is a thankless
job and do give credits to people who have spent a portion of their
time lending someone else a listening ear. Nobody's advice is
superior than another - what's more important is the willingness to
lend stranger/s on the other side of Singapore, a viritual hand to
lift him/her spiritually.
Cheers
