rainee SG I have heard of people rationalizing their action when they become the third party. They said as long as the rs is a happy one, a third party will not change anything. So nothing wrong with rocking the boat if it is a stable one. Some only backs off if there is a marriage in place. I despise such people. If it is a girl, there is only one name for her.
xShevchenkox SG all these are merely juz excuses l hate ppl who do wrong things liao still keep giving stupid and ridiculous excuses
xShevchenkox SG sum things wrong that means is wrong! u cnt possibly kill a person and tell the police that u kill becos u hate the person. no much of excuses can make up for it
Bontakun SG They rationalise because they gone head over heels in 'love'. I dunno what is their defination of 'love' but mostly its one that will bring more harm than good. Even if there is no marriage in mind for a couple, they should never test their relationship with a 3rd party. What for you want to rock the boat? However praying for the couple to break mah... Personally I don't go with that because that is not in my control. They are meant to be together, they get together. If they are not, then try the best to repair what ever damages that occur. There is this so-called 'Integrity' for a number of individuals that when they see a person they like bu tthat person is attached, then these individuals do not cut inbetween the relationship and wishes them the best, even if its hurting to the individuals who cannot have the love they wanted.
NekoRin SG Excuses are often given as condolences to lessen the guilt they feel on the wrongs they themselves knew they are doing. :3
xShevchenkox SG if they dun wan to feel gulity, they shldnt hav done such things in the 1st place. den dun nid tink of excuses or being gulity
NekoRin SG Hmm for these people. Their definition of 'love' is centered around they themselves. They want to take/have more than give, it's pretty harmful is one expects to keep taking and not giving. Something which needs to be drilled into their heads = =
rainee SG Yup, because this is sort of like a gray area. I believe that even if there is a 3rd party, it is not really that easy to break up a rs as long as it is a secure and happy one. If the presence of the 3rd party matters, that means there is seriously something lacking in the rs.
rainee SG Yea lor... rs is all about giving and taking...striking a balance between these two is very important
Bontakun SG Self-centered love then. Loving the person based on that, more than likely, will NOT yield a good outcome in the relationship. To love is to give. If both sides give, then wouldn't it feel good to receive when you least expect it? However quite a number of people cannot resist the temptations of self-centered loving. What they want compared to what they can give. What they desire compared to what they can do for others. Such selfishness will destroy not only yourself, but the people around you as well.
xShevchenkox SG do wrong things le, feeling gulity...a bad person but still got a bit of hope do wrong things le, dun feel anything, that is the worst kind of ppl..worst than an animal, this kind l really wan throw eggs at them le
Bontakun SG Aye. The main focus is on the relationship. Outside intereferences only serves to test the bonding of the relationships and at many times, unfortunately, brings out the ugliness in a relationship that is not stable to begin with.
