how many of the forumnites here aren't close to their
fathers?
For me father has sort of become an alien word. ya know, my dad was
brought up the traditional style, he believed in the harsh
punishment methods and never the caring, thoughtful parenting style
which would deemed to be spoiling the child in the olden
days.
This results in us drifting further n further, we must have spoke
about less than 100 times in a year. From small, he nvr asked about
our studies, or anything, much less our existence. I figured if I
went missing someday, he wouldnt know until at least 1 month. Haiz,
what I can do is to promise myself I would not take his footstep, i
would try to take a big part of responsibility in raising my son,
never letting him drift apart from me.
Sometimes, its just pride lah u know. The senior authority person
(my dad) do sumthing wrong, refuse to admit or apologize to the
junior authority which is me, this builds up an air of tension,
resulting in disrespect, and so on and so on, in a vicious cycle
that only increases with time.
I never knew fathers are important until I saw my friend's dad. His
father was like his best friend, they would go drinking, ogling
girls, playing games, cycling, everything together. Feel envy
though. He had a father figure to look up to. For me, I had nothing
to look up to, depending on myself. When sumthing screwed up, I
would go to the rooftop or be in the room mulling over.
Haiz.....
