Was it my fault? Or my friend's?

sillyme SG

There is no point blaming each other. The situation arose due to unexpected circumstances.

If time allows, you could have gone to another place to wait for her. That could have made everyone happy.

Just give and take. No need to get angry over such a small matter.

blowfish SG

it true for some jobs that always last min got something ;cock; up and need to OT or meeting.

browniebaobao SG

both are at fault.

u are not being understanding. I duno whether u are still schooling or what.. but when it comes to work, sometimes things juz cropped up.. even my job also.. when im busy, i'll be very very busy, no time to even get a drink or go to the washroom. I experienced the worst thing today.. hanged up the phone, next second another call comes in. One task haven't finish, another one comes in. Worst still, I still have to make long distance calls, reply to emails and get things done etc. At the end of the day, I got my work piling up...and I was too tired to continue.. I really have to stop and continue on the next working day.

No one likes to work till late de. I believe she din want to stood you up. And I'm sure there's a misunderstanding, that she thought u know the restaurant closes at 9.30pm and din inform her earlier. She could be very frustrated for working till late liao yet she could not have a nice dinner.

What I always do is, if I can foresee that it will be a busy day for me, I usually tell my frens to go ahead with the dinner, I'll join them after i finished my work, for a drink or something.

Parka SG

Playing the blame game is so useless.

Next time just stress on the punctuality. If there's any hint of being late, just inform the other party.

ILPSY SG

Sometimes, we just tend to "assume" things. It happens to all of us.

If you ask me, both were at fault. Seriously, this is such a small matter, at least to me! Maybe you gals are too young! Mr. Green

Sakuraflower SG

u both got attitube problem Laughing

call her or hp also cannot mah??

so stingy... want to save hp money mah???

anyways call her up the next day and see how is the reaction and do some explanation... Very Happy

soulwinner SG

Happy ending!!!

airgrinder SG

hi ts.

frankly speaking so what if it's ur fault or hers?

A child cross the road on red, a car came and killed him. Driver's fault? The child's fault? the parents? or heaven's?

So what?

Perhaps you should not be too disturb by these things and move on.

If it's me, i'll laugh it off and say jokingly "sorry lah, my fault my fault, as long as u happy. Let's plan another buffet next weekend, so we can crap about gals!!"

Cool

Ito_^ SG

scold her back, she has her faults and she has to admit it. knowing herself would be late doesn't mean she can hush hush it up till the last moment after u left her workplace. i HATE people like that.

next time, if something like this happens again, go ahead with the dinner without her at the designated time. when she arrives, you can either continue the dinner or eat elsewhere and u all can keep her accompany.

time waits for no one. that is a fact.

but the same could be said for you in time.

jojobeach SG

OK. I'm glad both of you are on good terms again.

Sometimes, it is not easy to be a gracious host.
Most important is to try to be understanding to other's predicament.

Try to anticipate possible problems, and be more pro-active in solving them.

Good luck to your trip.

Please get together and talk it out.
Set out the plans clearly so there is no misunderstanding.
Make sure all of you are on the same level in terms of where and what you want to do during this trip. Expenses and comfort level. Very Important.

The last thing you want to do is ruin the trip with any arguments.

mikki SG

Ok,since we are on the topic of this friend and i,so i shall mention another matter between us.

Someone asked me if i am still schooling or what. Ok,i am currently awaiting my results and after that,i will be joining the public sector. Confirmed. I have always wanted to be a ____________ (shall not say what lest ppl recognise me)ever since i was young. Yup,childhood ambition. And nothing can make me change my mind abt my career. I know my starting pay will be lower than that of my friend(which happens to be A)as mine is public sector while hers is private. And her company is well-known. She has already graduated and been in her current job for more than half a year.....and ever since she joined her company,she has been persuading me to switch jobs(i signed on to the organisation even before graduation),quoting the high salary and benefits etc. BUT,seriously,no matter how good the privileges are,i am really not interested in joining her company and emphasised that to her many many times. Firstly,i am not interested in her line of work;secondly,i really do love what i am going to do,though i have not tried it out yet. I don't understand why she has to keep bringing up this "come la,come join my company" every time i mention her company's name. Or when i am curious abt sth in her company then she will think/assume i am attracted. *rolls eyes* i am just curious only la....In fact,when we met up a while ago,i only asked her casually whether every staff is entitled to a corporate card and she went "Good right....join my company la..." I almost wanted to vomit blood. Because she just does not understand what i have been telling her..... And maybe she cannot comprehend why i am not "moved" too. Ha.

I truly understand why she loves her job so much;as much as i know,it's her childhood ambition too. I can understand her love for her job,why can't she do the same? Occasionally i would wonder how we survived our schooling days together......when our frequency is like,quite different?

jojobeach SG

Your friend is just trying to be your friend.
She thinks you may be getting the shorter end of the deal.

When you are new to the work force, everything is new and fresh and exciting. It's all about the money, the glamour and potential opportunities.

After several years, it will be about job satisfaction.
What is the point of being paid higher but you are not happy ? How long can you last if you are unhappy with your job ?

When your friend pester you to join her again. Try these,

I'd like to try the public sector out. If I am convinced it is not suitable for me, I will consider joining you. Thank you for looking out for my interest.

If I join and we work in the same department, we will not be able to take vacation leave at the same time. How to go travel together in the future ?

When she goes "join my company lah " reply casually " ohhh.. maybe, maybe not, we'll see how things go"...... Afterall, it is too early to tell isn't it ?

The idea is not to burn your bridge for the future. You never know if you might need it.

Good friends need not be on the same frequency. As long as both of you enjoy each other's company, that is good enough.

Good friends can think alike, but never the same.
Because both of you have your own brains, your own life, your own sets of beliefs.

I have close friends who are the exact opposite of my character, but I love them because they are so different, that's why the friendship is so interesting.

Saint` SG

it is definitely a's fault imo .. i hate ppl who can be so inconsiderate .. she thinks late for 30min is no big deal then make her wait next time in return .. moreover she wasted 30mins times X amt of ppl's time tat dinner ... this is outrageous .. i mean it is basic courtesy to inform some1 of the delay or wat.. n not IMA for freaking 30mins .. Mad

AndrewPKYap SG

HAPPY ENDING SINCE 01 June 2007 · 02:09 PM

Time for you people to move on. Don't be so attached to other's problems so much so life cannot go on for you. Laughing

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