Damn m i reali an introvert??

kb24 SG · 2007-05-25T21:42:30+00:00

i am only a introvert when i am wif gals

kb24 SG

hmm everytime theres like a gathering wif ppl im not particularly close wif,like collegues etc i feel nervous..

do u guys feel it too or u all juz feel like its going out wif normal friends?

anything i can do to feel better? to feel more extrovert?

allentyb SG

simple

tell yourself, you don't care about what others think of you

i think therefore i am

yuko-ogura SG

go out more often with friends to crowded places.

try walking stomach-in, chest-out. soldier posture they call it.

u'll look a lot smarter.

ls-tOrMeNt SG

That's not introvertness la.

You just need to be flexible, adaptive and happy! Smile

soulwinner SG

You ahev very low self-esteem?

kb24 SG

hmmm its like i sometimes feel ppl dun reali like toking to me,like they find me boring etc..

but many times i just cant find topics to talk about..

Seth35 SG

simple

tell yourself, you don't care about what others think of you

i think therefore i am

yup correct... LIke excercising...lose fat and weight...Maintain the way without ohearing otther people trying to crticize you...Slowly as you grow to look better...They will shut up one...

sheri SG

I think u feel nervous coz u dunno wat to say. Anyways if they are new colleagues, u would hardly know wat they like = dunno wat they like. And what they like, may be the most boring thing to u. Just hang in there bah….actually I am in exactly the same situation, but wat they like = what I hate, so I hardly lunch with them. Hearing wat their child ate last nite, what they child did last nite = mental torture to me

tophero SG

1. When out with people you are not close with, it is normal to feel:
a. Bored ... if they are boring
b. Horny ... if someone is cute
c. Entertained ... if they are entertaining
and so on.
However, nervousness is not normal. One might feel nervous if they are doing something that makes you nervous, but if you aren't close to them then you shouldn't choose to be in their company anyway.

2. Despite what people like to think, it is rather difficult to change one's personality; not impossible, just very difficult. What people perceive as confidence is frequently an outward display of lack of self consciousness or inability/deliberate avoidance of seeing things from the perspective of others.

To anyone who thinks that you can have a personality other than that which you have developed naturally, I pose the following question: what if someone told themself that they will be a person that proves that claim false?

Whether they succeed or fail, the claim is will be false.

3. You are asking if you are really an introvert on an internet forum (sgforums, no less). I can't say for certain, but I can make a good guess at the answer.

aiglosicicle SG

i feel the same way when i go out with school friends Mr. Green

january SG

sometimes i feel nervous also, i wonder if people can be so natural and at ease all the time.

i mean i will worry if they ask me certain question or whether i will say the wrong things sometimes.

soulwinner SG

Forget the whole thing and moved on…

club18 SG

dun worry, be happy..
just be natural..
ppl can see when u are unnatural and nervous

fairlady_xoxo SG

Hmmmm i never liked crowds and high profile people....coz...i just find them irritating and they don't have a mind of their own? People do they do? Hahaha....

Yesh that makes me quite an introvert... Rolling Eyes

modulus_me SG

Just be yourself ba. Unless you are trying to meet some expectations you have set for yourself or by them, there's no reason for such a big lack of confidence de ba... Or else, you have to learn to believe in yourself more? Diff freq, then move on ba. Jia you! Wink

gigabyte14 SG

i don't think you're an introvert...

introverts are worse than that.

darknessfall SG

introverts keep things to themselves, and never socialise...
at least you did..

i think the best cure, is either u give such gathering a miss, or u have someone who you feel comfortable with, to be at the gathering too.. then you can always chat back to the person when you feel lonely or out of place.

The problem with such gathering is, if you miss it, people will say you are AS, and you miss the chance of getting to know them better, and whatever gossips or news they might be discussing.

If you go, but u dont really know them, you will feel out of place. But try breaking the ice abit, slowly. Not easy, but not that hard. I know people who can just sit in a group he/she just know, and chat as if they had been friends for quite sometime... Cool

kb24 SG

yes yes i agree wif u dark ice!! but anyways to help me blend in? cuz once some1 frm that grp sorta dominates the discussion,i’ll be left alone..veri hard to ‘break’ into the conversation.

greenblackwhite SG

you have social anxiety. thats different from being introverted

rane SG

Could it be panic attack more than you being introvert?