How should i reply this sms ?

curiousOrange SG

A man is doing some window shopping. Theres a pair of shoes he likes but he had not visited the other stores further down the road.

What is he likely to do?

He tells the shop owner, Ill come back later

There could be a few possible reasons why hes telling you to wait:

1. He has a girlfriend and is contemplating whether to break up with her.

2. He has other options around him and is wondering which one to choose.

3. He has other commitments in his life right now and prefers to focus on them instead of relationship.

The third possibility is least likely.

From your previous post, he is proactive in his pursuit (waiting for you to buy breakfast together, initiating some physical contact,etc)

Well, that is until he got some confirmation of your feelings.

Possibilities 1 and 2 dont really sound bad either; at least he has the decency to tell you to wait while he sorts things out before jumping into anything serious with you.

Possibilities 1 and 2 also indicate that he is feeling pretty confident of his chances right now, he thinks you are already in the bag.

So what do you do with his sms?

The best way to leave an impact on him is not to reply anything at all or just him short answers. Try it a few times and you will see the frequency of his smses increasing.

But Im not saying ignore him from now on. Just chill and enjoy yourself when he asks you out.

But do let him realize that you are not without options.

Theres a pair of shoes he likes but he has not visited the other stores further down the road.
He tells the shop owner, Ill come back later

The shop owner simply smiles and tells him, Theres no obligation to buy.
She focuses on describing the features of the shoes and why it's suitable for him.
She knows she always has the option to sell to someone else.

fishyday SG

girl.... i noe you feel confused , but hey ... keep your hopes up okies ??... the same thing happened to me , except that i was the one going away , and he was the one staying in singapore. On my last day in singapore, he called me up and confessed and i confessed too.... that i liked him.... well , it didn't work out...
well ... the first question is whether you would like to have a long distance relationship, are you prepared for that if he asked you to .... how much are you willing to sacrifice for this realtionship

WiNtEr'SkiLL SG

just stay in contact and see how it goes ba..

farnee SG

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Scania N113CRB luver SG

seems like he's trying to test this relationship . If it wasn't feasible for him , he will ignore this r/s ..

IMO, he dont seem worthwhile to be waited . If i were you, i might just change target and forget abt this guy, becuz he is one who cant make up his mind . Who knows i might have to wait for a long time before he came up with a decision . And who knows? I might have been better off with another guy . Neutral

Ofcuz this is just my point of view . Wink

Sheepophile SG

why dont you tell him, sometimes if you wait too long, by the time you think you're still interested after the impulse, the shoe might be sold out.

and then you regret.

curiousOrange SG

He has given you the best answer you can hope for.

His answer is 2.

He knows there will be other options available so he will take his time to find the right one.

So how can you win him over?

Originally posted by CuriousOrange:
The shop owner simply smiles and tells him, Theres no obligation to buy.

She focuses on describing the features of the shoes and why it's suitable for him.

She knows she always has the option to sell to someone else.

He posed a challenge to the shop owner, Show me why the shoes are suitable for me!

So the shop owner cracked her head and wondered how to best describe the features of her shoes and win this customer over.

Or did she missed one important step?

I have only one slight reminder for the shop owner.

The more she invests her time and effort trying to win the customer over, the more she will want some form of pay back from this customer.

It is important for the shop owner to realize that she herself is not without options.

If there is something you can learn from him, its his patience when dealing with matters of the heart and his confidence.

You have to admit, you dont really know him too well at this point.

Dont rush in and invest all your efforts on him blindly.

You have to qualify him first before you decide whether he is a worthy customer.

zeny SG

Result
you love him and he knows it
he is testing water and if another better girl comes along you are history.

Advice

No point giving cos you will not listern to what I or anyone will say.

You will just go on meeting him and trying to get him to love you.

Mark my words!

kiss_my (_i_) SG

X2
coz i used to be like this... Razz

farnee SG

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curiousOrange SG

No right or wrong, just a matter of how you feel after doing it.

It seems to me you are trying to use some form of strategy on him; pretend that you don't really care too much in front of him, then come to this forum and ask whether you have done the right thing (that means you actually care a lot!).

Acting is tough. Start believing that you have other options available.

Both of you are using some form of strategy on each other:

Your strategy: You really like him but you are trying to pretend you don't care too much.

His strategy: Some clowns around him taught him the "3 days rule" that is susposed to make girls think of him more.

When both parties are using strategies on each other, you'll have a stalemate. The result you will get is a draw.

When one of the party starts to invest more of his time and effort, he will be the first to drop whatever strategy he is playing.

Only then can we have a winner.

So try not to overanalyse everything he says.

Let him do the chasing from now on. Your job is to simply enjoy the dates.

gerrykoh SG

Aiyah, go & date other guys- let him know you have other 'options' and that you won't wait around.

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