from what i gather, TS loves the sex bit, besides it also
affirms their "loving relationship" - I reckon she enjoys sex with
him because she loves him; and shes having some doubts as other
people around her tells her otherwise, that her bf is using her.
She refuses to believe it, yet she comes here for opinion; either
to seek confirmation or have people reassure her that her bf is
alright behavior, that its normal to behave like that.
But from her account I seriously questioned her bf's character.
He's very much like using her, he certainly does not behave like he
respected the girl, much as TS might have liked it. (After all she
likes it because there's love involved, its fufilling to have sex
with the one you love; but for him he probably just dig the sex
)
If shes the proactive party in the sex then I can still assume her
bf is only doing this to pleasure her as well as himself, but she
sounded more like a passive role in this relationship, shes only
convincing herself this is love and she loves it. If she doesnt
feel at some point doubts, she wouldnt post in AA.
To TS:
So thats the situation - your bf sounds more like using you as a
whore; recognised that and are you still ok with it? If your idea
of great relationship involved his spontaneouty in his actions
towards you then by all means carry on; but yes you ARE used.
So how now? You got my opinion. 
