What do you do when you're mad at yourself?

MooKu SG

Can I be your friend?

[I'm good at making people unhappy Twisted Evil ]

Pitot SG

U know i like BIG open spaces...

where there is nothing between me and the sky.

Singing helps too. Wink

Den after that i will call my friends out as i always do to seek advice on the matter. they can joke abt it I'm ok, as it helps us to laugh it off and move on. Laughing

missqi SG

I guess it makes me feel better, and I pay penance for what I did wrong.
Neutral

MooKu SG

You could do it in some other ways... like, giving your time to the sick & needy, or make up for it by cheering up 50 people per mistake... Razz

Or maybe, you could go donate blood, if you still think inflicting pain on yourself is the best option. Confused

MooKu SG

ooo peetoot likes to sing!
got go karaoke or not. Razz

Pitot SG

got la. too long nvr go already. Laughing

MooKu SG

Why never go! They stopped letting you in ah? Sad

Twisted Evil

kidding ahh.

Ok umm, I think the moderators can close this topic already. Embarassed

Thanks a megabyte. Razz

Pitot SG

u sponsor me la? Laughing

because i found more ways to have the same level of enjoyment.

Bontakun SG

Take refuge in doing something to soothe that anger. Rejoice in the fact you are not mad at anyone else. If you have a certain belief in something, that can be your source of ‘anger management’.

<Precious> SG

I usually spend some quiet time sorting myself out. Anger doesn't solve anything but only zaps your energies............... Very Happy

untitledwav SG

you don't want to know. Sad

Yunhaier SG

You don't actually pay for your deeds; probably more like numbing your senses with pain.

Please don't.

PM anyone in AA if you need a listening ear. I am sure they will lend you. Idea

Cheers

Bontakun SG

That is only self pitying and self delusion that whatever you did, as long as you THINK you are punishing yourself to atone for it, it will be fine.

That does NOT solve the problem. You still have not check your heart and learn from the issue.

Paying the price does NOT = to repentance.

Can you imagine how many times you have to hurt yourself just to nullify the penalty you did? Or how severe you have to do it if the penalty is BIG in your point of view? You can hurt yourself until you have 0 HP left and STILL it will NOT do justice to anyone. Not to the person you hurt? Not to the people around who loves you. Not even to yourself. You are only limiting yourself to what you REALLY can do to atone for what you did.

If you really think you cannot control your anger or what. Get a close person to whom you can account to. Every time you are upset by your anger, tell that person. Let that person help you in your process to control your anger or whatever else you think you should improve.

And hurting self is irresponsible. Because by doing so, you are also hurting the people who loves you. In that case you are committing more penalties than you think you are.

Unfortunately I am also aware of my stand and where I come from. I understand I am no one to you. I am no one to anybody here. My words can mean crap. Who am I to judge and comment? Yet I still say my piece because I care. Take for example when XshevchenkoX commented on something. I will tell him my views and help him because I care for him. Likewise you too when you commented on things, I try my best to 'help' you (if you want to see it that way).

A message to readers who think by hurting oneself, one can atone for something he/she/it did:

There are BETTER ways to atone for what you did. A simply 'sorry' is good enough. A smile can also make a day. A helping hand will tell the person you care. A simple conversation will show that the person is in your mind and thoughts.

kopiosatu SG

why would anyone be mad at themselves?

ChingAlvin SG

I wouldnt DO porky anytime ..

MooKu SG

Why not?

Several people have responded in this thread, and they have, at one point in time experienced that.

You can be mad at yourself for being stupid, for missing opportunities, for not waking up in time, for forgetting a loved one's birthday...

Laughing

soulwinner SG

Go on a holiday.. Very Happy

aHGer^83 SG

i’ll isolate myself, den hurt myself. and continue to isolate till i feel better

missqi SG

Everyone has different ways of dealing with anger, and I have my own.
I am violent towards myself yes, but they leave no scars, and after that, I move on and stop being angry.
I think it is a very effective way to stop being angry with myself(especially), and nobody wants to try because of the pain.
Trust me, when you're mad at yourself, bite your finger till you can't take it anymore, or spray hot water on your privates for 20 seconds, or punish yourself by running up 30 floors twice and not resting when you're tired and even when you're dizzy, or if you have braces, re-schedule your next appointment asap to NOW if you can.
Very therapeutic.

<Precious> SG

I'll spend some quiet time by myself to sort myself out. Wink

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