Originally posted by chanjyj:
Recently noticed my young friend displaying strange
behaviour these few days (Eg. Not happy, not really eating well),
and asked him what the problem was. He said it was nothing.
As he's going to NS soon I thought NS was the problem. Todayover
dinner he finally told me he was afraid of the opposite gender.
Afraid as in don't know how to interact with them, feels shy around
them. I believe this is troubling him alot.
He asked me for advice. I don't know how to give, because I am a
basically a loner, never had a girlfriend.
If anyone has any advice to give him, or can tell me what to tell
him, please tell me here, I want to try and help him.
[b]Please do not turn
this into a "+1" thread. I thought many times before finally
deciding to post in in this forum.[/b]
What you need to do is to prep his mentality first.
Most guys are afraid of the opposite gender is because they are
afraid of REJECTION.
If he can condition his mind to accept rejection as part and parcel
of courtship, then he is pretty much ready to face the
"intimidating" girls.
Also, he may have low self confidence perhaps he didn't think of
himself as a very great guy so he is afraid nobody wants him.
What he is good at ? example his hobby or other kind of activities
he enjoy doing. You can start working on those ideas first.
