Originally posted by curiousOrange:
It seems like he has no problems talking to women
online.
While conversations online and in person are quite different, [b]he
can still use chat rooms as a practice ground to learn what can
keep the other party interested in a conversation.
The online
chatting exercise
There are more men in chat rooms than women.
Women in chat rooms will usually be talking to a few guys
simultaneously and it will be difficult to maintain her
interest.
This is the point of the first exercise
Learn how to sustain a conversation and get the women
interested enough to give him their contacts.
Most men online prefer to use standard ice-breakers:
Lonely man 85 : asl pls?
Waited for 3 minutes
.
Impatient Girl : 20 f sg
Lonely man 85 : got bf?
Lonely man 85 can keep Impatient Girls attention for a few
minutes. Chances are the lady will log off without even informing
him.
Advise your friend to do something different.
Talk and ask questions depending on how he feels and
depending on the situation he is in.
Situational Conversation will be applicable to him when he is ready
to talk to women face to face.
If he is feeling naughty and flirtatious, just do some harmless
teasing:
Marathongirl : Hi
Him : So are you a marathon runner or is your name Mara and you
wear a thong?
Marathongirl : a bit of both
Him: I bet you do well in marathons when you are the only lady in
the race.
Marathongirl : why?
Him : they most probably will prefer the back view
Get your friend to practice talking online until he has no problems
getting the contacts. By then, he would have learnt what can keep a
woman interested during conversations.
The main barrier left would be his shyness and fear of
rejection.
Second exercise:
The smile and say
hi exercise
Tell him to make a conscious effort to smile and say hi to
strangers.
Strangers = Boys, girls, dogs, cats
it doesnt matter.
Dont worry about conversation at this point. Just look at that
person, nod his head, smile and say hi.
I noticed that when somebody gives me a friendly and genuine smile,
I naturally feel like smiling back.
People who dont smile back could be having a lousy day, simply too
self-conscious or could be just weird (most of the time, due to
reasons that are irrelevant to how we look).
A smile followed by a simple hi is one of the best
ice-breaker.
If your friend is serious about a change, tell him to keep doing
the 2 exercises for the time being. When he can do both exercises
with ease, please ask him to come here.
I have more exercises that can help him get over his fear.
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think online chat will make him worst leh...
make him more loner.. stay alone at home chat..
maybe you can organize outing with some girls friends like go lunch
movie or cycling.. then can slowly guide him along.. if not maybe
counsellor will do the job..
