endlessSorrow~~ SG I don't understand.. Is there really such a thing as "insensitivity"? My bf din't remember my last birthday, and din't buy anything for me on our 1st anniversary, etc.. All these i don't really mind, but last X'mas, he gave me a really big present: I found out from his sms that he had been having a fling outside. I confronted him n he confessed that he met up with this girl for 3 times, each time paying her money. I forgave him as I really love him alot but I had been through alot of emotional stress.. Insecurity, being paranoid, and I've always been finding faults with him.. We've been together for a year already, i really dunno what to do?! both holding on n letting go hurt me n I dunno why is he holding on to it either What'd u do if u were me?? Do u think that such a guy can be trusted again??
mystee SG seriously lar.. dump him... he has a fling outside.. that is too over.. how would u noe he wont do it again behind ur back? i noe is hard to jz break up & suffer.. but would u wan suffering in short term or long term? do u trust him when u guys eventually get married? if not, y hold on to this insecure r/s? from all these factors that u mentioned above.. i can c that he really dun treasure u.. so i c no point y u should continue on despite the fact that u love him so much.. for gals.. is impt to find someone who u can find security in the r/s.. & he treasure u like a precious stone.. as for y he is holding on maybe becos.. he is not on the lossing end..
sir sickolot II SG nope, and trust me...i'm a guy...and i find this act of his really 'low'. just get a move on with life. dump him.
Bontakun SG Well... I certainly cannot disagree with those who answered you and strongly recommend you to break up with him, but I rather not tell you what to do. You decide what you do. What I can tell you... or rather, ASK you is: What is your reason for being with him initially? Do you still hold to that same reason now? Did you know him to be 'not so devoted' before you decided to date with him? If you cannot bring yourself to trust him, how about trusting yourself? Trust your own decisions? Supposedly you 'break up' with him. How can you make sure that in the future, the person you date with will not do this to you? Will you instead hang on to this relationship and 'guide' him back to be 100% devoted to you? How about your friends? Your parents? Someone you know pretty well? Does anyone of them encountered this? Why not consult them and ask for their opinions too?
Gackt247 SG The ans is simple.. assuming tt all the evidence u posted is accurate.. dump him. If u r gonna continue seeing him.. u r juz plain naive. I know it sucks to be 2-timed.. but continuing only makes u and idiot. An emotional wreck. Com'on.. u r no longer a kid.. u r an adult.. start thinking like a mature one. Good luck. Be strong girl.
jojobeach SG Please lah. Why forumers here all so heartless ? The relationship almost 1 year ok ?? My advise, Stick with him. If you love him so much, you will be able to tolerate and accept him for what he is. If you love him so much, you can tahan his lies and deceit and affairs, over and over again. If you love him so much, you will want him to be happy. Since he enjoy his fling so much and expect you to forgive him after a BIG present. Let him and forgive him. If you love him so much, you will be happy to know that he is having a very "pleasurable" session with his flings during those nights he didn't call you back. Such is the power of LOVE. Love a man, love his everything. Including his mother. Such is the power of LOVE.
BrUtUs SG wats u n ur bf age grp? 1st yr like tat dun sound gd... hes actuali pay another gal to fling wif... u hv to b sure of ur feelings.. if u reali gng paranoid, best is to let go... to walk the journey of r/s & marriage will need trust n love... if u can give tat, it wun end up hapi...
|=hAze=| SG wats the big deal about being together for 1 year already if the guy hav been cheating on the girl?? the 1 year might hav lasted juz because both or 1 party cant face the fact of breaking up. maybe they should hav a serious talk and decide wat to do about their relationship next.
gerrykoh SG You don't seem to be important to him as he can't even remember your birthday. Also there is no trust. How can u remain with him? The impt. thing is you are not happy so why hang on to the r/s. There are better guys out there, give others a chance
