Advices

&we'lldanceallnight SG

I need some advices..Please help..

1)I like this guy since last year july.Cus he's very humourous and i like guys who are humourous..Slowly,we began to sms each other.
Abt 60plus sms-es every day,and thats alot.
He told me that he like me and of cus,i told him i like him too.
We have a sort of sms relationship.
But didn't talk to each other in school cus he wanted to avoid gossips..Okay,fine.
Slowly,he&my bestfriend(that knows that i like him,which is a girl) keeps flirting with each other in school..Obviously i was sad.. Like she knows that we are in a relationship,right? But actually i don't even think that it is a bgr.
Argh,i got very jealous of him&her,therefore,slowly hating that guy.
I rmbed it was around november,i told that guy i don't like him anymore..
He thought i like some other people,and thus dont like him.
BUT THATS NOT THE TRUTH! I JUST CANT STAND THE WAY HE AND MY FRIEND TALK OR PLAY WITH EACH OTHER!! I told him before,but he told me not to be jealous cus he wont like her..
So after telling him that i don't like him,he sms-ed my friend almost as much as he sms me.Like what the hell??!
My friend told me,'aiya.. he my best guy friend only.."
Sitting very close to each other and going out ALONE call best friend?Sms-ing and calling each other almost every day?
Bull shit.A load of crap.

Anyway,his bdae is just over and i gave him a box of hearts.
Ya,then like almost the whole class knows abt it.& keep teasing me and him.
IMAGINE HOW EMBARRASING IT IS!! Other then the hearts,i gave him a letter too.Telling him tat i like him,indirectly.
But he just thank me for the present and didnt say anything abt the letter.
Oh god..... I'm afraid he couldnt get the hint. Can someone tell me whether he likes me now? If not,i think i'm giving up soon..

2)I'm abt 170cm( tall for a girl) and 59kg.
My family and relatives says that i'm fat.
It's really funny cus one of my cousin,she's abt 167 and abt 58kg and nobody says that she's fat.Everyone said she's skinny and ask me to lose weight.
I don't really think that i'm fat.. My siblings gave me a nickname,'kingkong'.
I'm someone who cant really stand insults..
Ppl always tell me not to mind abt wad other ppl say..But i jsut cant.

I couldn't really slp every night... And i will have nightmares..
I'm not concentrating well cus i'm always tired every day.Due to the lack of sleep. I don't want any sleeping pills, neither do i want any medication..
Any advice? Thanks lots.

nerfz SG

i don't think u r fat but maybe a little bubbly looking. how old are u? u sound kind of immature. Of course, he gotten the letter and know your liking for him. But its up to him if he want to reciprocate your feeling.

[K]iyoshi SG

Ask yourself this question before u decide...

Do you think that he is really suitable for you anot?
Do you think whether he still like you anot or he likes ur frenz more?
Do you think he can be a gd BF anot?
and do you think you are ready for a bgr with a guy who is still not ready and still wanna play aroud de ma?

EbiTenpura SG

Guess you are around the age of 17 to 18?
Think in this way, you will like this guy now but after your A levels will you wait for him until he finishes his NS? You will surely meet more better guys out there in UNI. Can you resist it?

from your height and your weight i think you are not fat. what you can do is to keep fit. maybe go jogging once in awhile.

&we'lldanceallnight SG

hmmmm,i'm 14 though.
Not 17 or 18.
Maybe my thinking is indeed immature..
Okay..will think abt it.
Thanks Smile

TycoPsycho SG

i think mayb he is rly juz on very good terms wif tt fren of urs, and u were being paranoid.

and ur letter, u say u indirectly wrote u like him? but then hor, u alrdy told him b4 u dun like him liao. so mayb he nvr catch the hint?

silly0ne SG

I will start off with my slogan. Let it all out and leave no regrets. If u really love him, don't hold back yourself. Go all way out, if u really do love him why worry abt gossips. Trust and understand is important in a relationship, if he say won't, just believe and trust him. It may not be easy to overcome jealousy, but it will be easier to trust him based on love. As I said, do not hold back in a relationship. I personally held back in my previous bgrs and all did not end well. Go for it, if u really love him, guys don't like hints Just let it all out and leave no regrets. Be bless with love and magic in life

Btw your BMI is 20.4. thus not fat. It is a healthy range, no need to worry. If u want to sleep, try lavender scented stuff. 14 is still a long way to go girl, dont hand around bgr too much, if u think the relationship is not heading a direction.

yihao93 SG

is ur name by any chance joyce...?
Laughing

&we'lldanceallnight SG

My name is definetly not joyce,LOL.
What makes u think i'm joyce eh?

It's actually not me who wants to prevent gossips.
It's him,i don't mind actually.
I guess he get the hint?
I don't really think so that he and my friend are really very good friends.
I saw a survey or article that actually guys and girls cant really be good friends with each other,MOSTLY.

Well,my cca is netball.
And i have practices twice per week. So it's better then jogging eh?

browniebaobao SG

Too young.

Immature, think too much.

Advise u to concentrate on ur studies.

BTW, a guy and a girl can be very good friends. It really depends on individuals.

BrUtUs SG

its jz 1 guy n u r losing slp... theres plenty of guys around so no need to spend so much time on him... he probably dun like u... alot of flirts around...

Devil1976 SG

Personal opinion. If he has gotten your letter and not comment anything about it, chances are he's not that keen or stable enough to develop a relationship with you...

soulwinner SG

Is a common problem for a teens... Very Happy

Sakuraflower SG

if u think u r fat , then go to lose some weight... to me , I think that ur weight is alright... In fact, Ideal... BMI 20.... on the healthy scale....

then as for the guy , dun lose sleep because of him... It is easy for me to say, but hard for u to do rite.... Nvm... Just try...

As for the Bgr, u r just 14 rite, still young, there is a bunch of guys out there waiting for u to meet...

As for the guy, u already say that u like him, does he know that, what was the reply, he like u too, as a friend , buddy , further then that???

what for be jealous, it will not help at all...

Wish u all the best!! Cool

&we'lldanceallnight SG

Thanks everyone for advices.
Sakura,maybe he's really not intersted in me.
I think i'm really losing sleep bcus of him and my friend.
I'm really feeling so hopeless sometimes.
I couldn't control anything,including my emotions.
Every night i will look at his picture and listen to those,love songs.
I can't sleep.. I really cant..
If not,i will just think.
Think of something,but somehow,it will link to him..

My friend (that girl i'm referring to) thought i'm just too emo..
But does she knows all this? How i'm feeling?
She's almost really great at everything..
Like shes good in studies,she's slim..And she have a caring boyfriend with her.
So she's happy about 99% most of the time..

I think i'm drifting off the topic..
Anyway,thanks all for the advices..Hope to hear more soon..
Thanks~~

Scania N113CRB luver SG

Gosh , you are sweet ! Very Happy So far, no girls have ever given me any presents. I dont even have a present given by my friend ! Let alone a girl. Crying or Very sad

Hmm... i suggest you move on . This guy doesnt worth your affection for him. He's just dragging it on. There are better guys out there who will be frank with their feelings. Smile

Anyway, regarding the "lose weight" thingy , im also caught in such a situation too. Im neither fat or plump in any way. But im very skinny but tall, standing at 175cm with a weight of just 51kg. Every time when my relatives sees me, they say "Wah u never eat rice arh? Eat more rice lah aiyo !" Grrr...its not my fault that i cant put on weight . Sad Also, i have acne problems too. They keep asking me whether i kept my face clean or not . Quite irritating initially. Ok back to you. As long as you think you are fine, dont bother about what other people say . Just be yourself and live yourself and stay happy. Very Happy

Cheers. Mr. Green